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Groom shoes can be just as loud and colorful (and erm, expensive) as bridal footwear

For these fancypants types, I bring you today's post full of loud colorful formal footwear in masculine styles. Of course there's some Fluevog action in here, but I've also got some Vivienne Westwood, Alexander McQueen, and some skull-covered Jeffery-West. The sad truth is that some of these shoes are really, really expensive… but they're also really, really fabulous. Even if you're just window shopping, there are styles in here to love…

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Male wedding privilege as seen from a transgender groom's perspective

I have been thinking about the weird privilege I've held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don't actually fit our queer relationship, and they don't include my trans-ness.

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So many buckles: Rob's amazing red gothic fairytale groom gear

We'll hopefully be profiling the full wedding soon, but I have to stop first to give some snaps to Rob here and his impeccable gothic-tinged suit, complete with one of the most beautiful red jackets I've seen in a long time. Oh, and the buckled red vest? Amazing. The detailing, you guys… THE DETAILING. And the accessories! And his bride, Liz. Just wait…

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Who the hell cares: important lessons from partners who aren't as interested in wedding planning

One detail that's been plaguing me ever since I bought my dress has been figuring out what I'm going to do with the length. So I go back and forth, back and forth, on this decision. The past six weeks or so, I was gung-ho about getting it shortened. Then, one night, I was telling my partner about how I was once again reconsidering. While I listed out the pros and cons of leaving my dress full-length, I could see his eyes begin to glaze over. "Mm-hmm," he said as I talked, stifling a yawn. Which was when I realized: Who the hell cares?

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What bridal magazines can do to ANYONE

How does this video only have 75 views? We don't normally share sketch videos, but this one is about about how, sometimes, guys can get way more sentimental about wedding planning than girls. Give the video two minutes, and behold the full-frontal mind-fuck that bridal magazines can pull on ANYONE. "Ooh, this one looks like a grotto! Like a magical fairy mermaid grotto…"

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Grooms getting ready are just as gorgeous as brides

We see a LOT of wedding photos of brides getting ready on their wedding days. The "hanging dress" shot. The "doing make-up" shot. You know what we see way less of? Gorgeous grooms (like Andy here) getting ready. The turquoise details, the impeccably parted hair, the inked arms, the lighting coming in through the window… this is just one of those photos that becomes an instant family heirloom. Personally, I'd love to see more wedding photography celebrating everyone's pre-wedding preparations…

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Your groom should feel like a fancy princess too!

While shopping for his outfit, my future husband goes straight for the shoes that cost twice as much as my dress did. Like an evil-but-sensible Bridezilla, I say no to the beautiful shoes. Then my bridesmaid pointed out that if it was the bride saying "I want to spend X amount on shoes because they're perfect and wonderful, and they'll make me feel just like a princess." Then everyone, including the groom, would be telling the bride to JUST BUY THEM!