"We're doing this, bishes!" Should I have an engagement party? #Parties & Showers#engagement#engagement party November 23 | Catherine Clark bijouxandbits Photos by: Wild About You Photography Photo by Wild About You Photography Related Post 4 things that nobody tells you about getting engaged I've been told my entire life -- by movies, books, and trashy reality shows -- that your wedding is just a magical event. Well, I've... Read more Unless you're eloping, you probably have to announce your engagement somehow, right? Maybe you'll have a stereotype-toppling engagement photo session or maybe you'll send out engagement announcements, or maybe… you'll ask yourself, "should I have an engagement party?" Is a engagement party required? Hell nah. Can it be cool? Hell yeah! There are loads of pre-wedding party opportunities though, so here are some pros and cons to throwing an engagement party if you're on the fence about this one. Pros to an engagement party: Engagement parties allow you to announce your engagement in a fun way. Who doesn't love a party (especially if someone else is throwing it!)? You can use it as an opportunity to surprise your guests with the news, if you can concoct another reason to get them all there. It gives enthusiastic family or friends the chance to throw a party. Sometimes people just WANT to do it. Why not let them? They can be the gateway drug to introducing the family members who haven't met yet. You can see how everyone interacts prior to the wedding, which may make the table assignments easier, if you're doing that. The party lets guests celebrate who may not be able to attend the wedding, especially if you're having a destination wedding. If you're planning it yourself, it can be a great dry-run for planning the wedding. You'll get all your organization down and see where communication can be improved. It can allow you extra mingling time if you're planning a large reception where you'll have trouble spending time with everyone. It allows you to enjoy the initial burst of excitement about being engaged. Cons to an engagement party: Related Post The "Shit People Suggest" spreadsheet The fella and I got engaged right before we traveled home to see our families for a vacation. We both have incredibly kind, welcoming families,... Read more You may get caught having to invite everyone from your engagement party to the wedding, which can be awkward if your wedding is small and your party is not. You have to get your wedding guest list organized earlier than you may have planned. Can be a lot of work, a lot of money, and a lot of extra stress. You may end up fielding a lot of suggestions about the wedding itself, but we've got tips for that, too! BOTTOM LINE: If you WANT an engagement party, there are lots of pros, especially if someone is going to throw one for you. Otherwise, you may want to just start planning the wedding itself and send out some cute engagement announcement cards instead or throw a small get together at a bar for your closest pals. A tiny party isn't a lesser party. When to send out all those damn wedding cards and invitations Save the Dates, shower and bachelor/ette parties, wedding invitations, Thank You cards… when do you need to send out all those damn wedding things? Well, first of all, you don't… Read More What are YOUR pros and cons for doing an engagement party? Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Catherine Clark Catherine Clark is Offbeat Bride's Senior Editor. In her spare time she loiters at her local library, makes art, watches movies en masse, plays video and tabletop games, poorly cooks healthy things, cuddles with her feline fur baby, and blogs at BijouxandBits.com. @enidjcoleslaw @bijouxandbits @bijouxandbits PREVIOUS When lightsabers meet Harry Potter wands, Sharma Shari is there to capture the geek magic NEXT These mohawked rockabilly wedding ladies took a DIYed wedding by storm… literally Show/Hide comments [ 5 ] I think an engagement party can also be a great idea if you know you won't be getting married for several years (or don't have a date set and don't know when you will be able to pin one down, for whatever reason). That way you can celebrate the big news, and potentially take some of the pressure off. 3 agree Reply We didn't bother — about 50% of our wedding-guests-to-be were with us on a five-day camping trip when he proposed, and a lot of them knew, so already had celebratory drinks and music nearby! Reply My fiancé and I were having a hard time figuring out what we wanted to do for our engagement pictures. We knew we wanted pictures that actually reflected who we are. So we decided to have a small engagement party at a local tavern. They let us decorate, and we had out STDs printed out and ready to hand out. We bought a couple bottles of bubbly and some share plates, but if people wanted more food or different drinks they were able to buy them. One of our friends took some candid photos of us with our friends and we used those as our engagement photos. It felt good to have our friends celebrate with us. Reply My mum has this idea that you can have a huge, invite-everyone engagement party, then a small wedding…which doesnt make sense to me. But then again she also thinks traditionally the grooms parents pay for the wedding! I think if theres going to be a big time delay between egagement and wedding it might be nice to celebrate in a big way twice but all the ideas I come up with for e-parties would make equally great weddings Reply I'm getting engaged on the 28th. I want to plan an engagement party that is small, since I never had one for my first engagement. This one feels more real and permanent to me. It's something worth celebrating. Problem is, we're completely broke, and no one in my family on my side has a house worth inviting people over to. My mother's house has NINE dogs and is packed with knick knacks, my house barely fits two people in the kitchen, and i'm taking care of my father for end of life care. I'm going insane here. It's the middle of winter, so I can't have an outdoors party. Any cheap options that we can do to pull this off and have fun? I love his family, so that's no problem at all. The extended family is on Colorado, so thank the heavens they wouldn't be able to come. 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