Beth & Nick

Although the photographer is totally skilled, I can't help but balk at the pose in this engagement photo.

Is it just me, or do the crossed arms of the headless groom-to-be comes off as creepily paternalistic? (“No, you're not getting your bride allowance — you've been naughty this week!”) And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling.

Again, Anne Ruthmann is clearly an amazing photographer. (Check out her stuff!) But the pose strikes me as creepy. That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, “Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!”

Comments on Who picked THIS engagement pose?

  1. Maybe it’s just the geek in me, but this shot reminds me of Princess Leia when she was enslaved by Jabba the Hutt…

  2. I give kudos to the photographer for having a sense of humor about this photo; which I agree is rather …well…odd. Oh why sugar coat, its CREEPY!!! The headless Groom and his Slave Bride kneeling at his Headless Authority! And the fact that she is smiling makes it MORE creepy. But hey, if the intention was to be offbeat and different…then you have achieved it and I applaud you for that. We are all discussing it, so that means it has gone from being just a picture to actual ART. Woohoo!

  3. Part of the problem with the pose is that it is taken in a (white) male dominated society. While in some parts of the country this is changing quicker than others, it is hard to view this photo outside of the societal context. For me this makes the photo more honestly on beat and less radically off beat.

  4. That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she’s all, “Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!”

    Coming from that perspective.. I think it’s kinda hot! 🙂

  5. I thought this picture was incredibly hot. But then I’m a sub 😉 and the idea of being curled up at my man’s feet while he stands protectively over me is very comforting to me. Men and women may be equals, but MY relationship has sphere’s of influence, and I’m happy with that. I have to agree with Kelley that I think this particular picture manages to actually be less just a couple portrait and more actual art.

  6. […] Thanks also to my husband Ali for assisting even though he was also an honored guest… and to Ashley for helping me scout out the locations. The last image at ‘gbh above is actually a tribute of sorts to my precious Anne Ruthmann, another Lowell local, who caused quite a stir over at offbeat bride when a photo of hers caused a lot of dramatic impassioned discussion about submissive …. […]

  7. 'That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"'

    This cracked me up.

    You can't get married if you don't have a head, silly groom!

  8. Personally, I LOVE this photo. This would absolutely be something I’d do. The idea that I’d be sitting at my Fiance’s feet (And my Fiancee’s feet, as I’m also poly and I wouldn’t leave Her out) with a genuine smile on my face doesn’t seem creepy to me at all.

    I’m kind of glad that this photo was posted, it just goes to show that as offbeat as we all think we are, there’s usually someone offbeat in a way we’d never think of. (I didn’t want to say “more offbeat” cause it isn’t really a competition.)

    My vanilla family and friends may not get it, but my kinky friends, good lord, they would fawn over this!

    I’m not, however, digging the headlessness. Thumbs up on the paternalistic action going on, though.

    • Offbeat Submissive, if I thought this photo was shot from a kink perspective, I would love it. But the impression I’ve gotten from all involved is that it was “just a fun pose,” not a reflection of an overt D/s relationship.

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