Who picked THIS engagement pose?

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Beth & Nick

Although the photographer is totally skilled, I can't help but balk at the pose in this engagement photo.

Is it just me, or do the crossed arms of the headless groom-to-be comes off as creepily paternalistic? (“No, you're not getting your bride allowance — you've been naughty this week!”) And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling.

Again, Anne Ruthmann is clearly an amazing photographer. (Check out her stuff!) But the pose strikes me as creepy. That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, “Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!”

Comments on Who picked THIS engagement pose?

  1. Why does it matter who you’re getting married to? The whole point is to just get married, is it not?

    *snark intended*

  2. I just looked at some of her other photos, most of which are clearly exceptional. The ring shot with the one hair- spectacular! However, there’s one with the bride behind bars, and the groom sitting on the ground in front of them, as if *she* were locked in a cage.

    Creepy.

  3. You crack me up!! I debated about whether or not I was going to post this particular picture… or even keep it for that matter! I think what makes it the most “off” is that she’s actually smiling. I have other images where she’s looking another direction and it feels more moody and fashion-like… but she wouldn’t have liked them because she’s self conscious about her side profile. Soooo…. perhaps it should’ve gone in the delete pile, or at least not been featured on my site… because it’s definitely not my best… but on the other hand, all art is up for interpretation, and this image may inspire someone else to create something even more wonderful. 😉 Luckily, the bride & groom loved them, which is all that matters to me. I’m definitely not for everyone’s tastes. Stay tuned and you may see even more “disturbing” images in the future!!! HA!

    • I’m relieved to see at least you’re not defending the implications of the photo. As far as I’m concerned the wife smiling obediently at the anonymous husband’s feet is somewhat sinister, let alone disturbing. Not sure I’d have picked this to show off your photography personally; though it’s well shot photography is a form of art like any other and artwork with a message like this makes me a tad uncomfortable. To each their own, I guess.

  4. PS. The bride & groom have lots of “pretty” and “normal” pictures from this engagement session… I just tend to post some of the most “out there” stuff on my blog because it’s unique and… dare I say… “offbeat.” 😉

  5. Yup, in all truth, I hate this shot, and I also LOVE most of the other shots from that set. I didn’t see anything like that when I attended the wee little bridal shows here, or I’d have gotten a lot more excited about the engagement photos idea. Love the bars, the bridge, the echanted forest … and not a smidge of vaseline to be seen. 😉

  6. Ahhh…. Starting the marriage out right by putting her in her place. As long as there’s a pic of the bride walking the groom with dog collar, I’m okay with it. 🙂

  7. I didn’t see the images like that at all. Some clients want images that are more like fashion photography than traditional wedding/engagement photos, and a lot of fashion photography has framing like this, and uses environmental elements like fences to add some visual interest. Sometimes, it really is no more than aesthetics.

  8. I like the creativity behind it, but it doesn’t seem much like a wedding/engagement photo to me at all. But you know, experimentation always has its merits.

    I’m sure the rest of her photos are no exception either, some of which are really superb.

  9. As a wedding photographer and daily reader of Anne’s blog I like this photo! Getting people to smile, especially when they are camera shy is tricky. The lovely lady in the picture looks happy, and that’s the point. I might have cropped more of the fellow out… but that’s just me. 🙂 Keep up the great work Anne.

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