Getting weddinged is what it’s called when you have a wedding after you’re already legally married

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Getting weddinged, verb: The act of having a wedding after you're already legally married.

We learned this term from Jeannie & Aaron of, who got married six years ago for the health insurance but are now planning their fall wedding.

Or rather, they're planning to get weddinged.

For more about getting weddinged, straight from Jeannie & Aaron's FAQ, keep reading…

Why do you guys keep saying you're getting “weddinged”? Aren't you getting married?Aaron and Jeannie have actually been legally married for about 6 years now.

What?! What the hell?!

OK, calm down. See, when Aaron and Jeannie first moved to Seattle, Jeannie worked part time and interned at the local NPR affiliate part time. And because of that, Jeannie didn't have any health insurance. She managed to cobble together some expensive, lousy coverage. Her best option was to pray to every god she could think of asking that she never get sick. Aaron, on the other hand, had a job at Microsoft. He had awesome health insurance. So after watching Jeannie struggle through a year of no coverage, Aaron offered to get her covered under his Microsoft insurance. The only way to do this was to get legally married. Aaron and Jeannie knew they wanted to be together, but they didn't want to go through a wedding ceremony. And they thought it was really stupid that Aaron had the Cadillac of health insurance while Jeannie's coverage was for total crap.

So why are you having a wedding now, after all this time?

Because we're ready to now. Geez, you're nosy. Honestly, now that we're in a mortgage together it kind of feels like the public declaration of love and commitment thing is really not that huge a deal.

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  1. I'm in a similar situation. My (now) husband and I were married at the SF Courthouse in October, almost one full year before our planned weddings in India and the USA. He is from India, and our immigration attorney strongly recommended that he get his Greencard paperwork filed before we got hitched in India. It's kind of weird, because it was just the two of us at the courthouse and we sometimes forget we are married. None of his peeps know we're legally married, but most of mine do. I am wishing I had kept it under wraps until the 'real' wedding in September 2010 – but I was too excited! I just feel a little cheated out of having the whole 'shebang' at once. I feel like we can't have a wedding, like we will have to call it a 'marriage celebration' or just a reception. At the same time, it's really made us analyze what makes a marriage – the legal, social, romantic, spiritual, familial commitments and all. The good news is at least I don't have to worry about us getting cold feet the nights before our 'weddings'!

    The *great* irony is I was always very anti-wedding – until I met him and fell so in love. I always swore I would never get married, and now I'm having 3 marriages – to the same person! 🙂 🙂

  2. I met my fiance while he was studying abroad at my college, from England. The next year, I studied abroad at his school in England! We finally figured out that we’re supposed to be more than friends, so he’s moving here in a few months to be with me :). we’ll be signing the papers in december, but no ‘big wedding’ until next October! we’re keeping it a secret from all but the closest family, people just dont seem to understand “why you’d need 2”. lame!

  3. FH and I are part of a big post apoc. community and are having a wedding in May with our blood relatives and close friends and then getting weddinged again in September with all 1500 of our Wasteland family!

  4. The FH and I are actually considering doing this. We are currently planning our wedding right now for a year and a couple months from now, but actually getting married now might be a good idea for us. You see he is active duty military and I’m a reservist. And while reservists do get insurance coverage, it’s spotty, fraught with “if this” & “if that” and half the time my own reserve office doesn’t even know what we’re entitled to. (For that reason many reservists at my base use the insurance that their civilian jobs provide instead; I don’t have a civilian job) So if in the next year or so, unless I am actually working my reserve stuff the actual day I have an accident/get sick, I’m pretty much screwed. It’s good to know it’s not uncommon. I kinda feel like we’d be cheating, you know, just getting married for the benefits. But it really does makes sense.

  5. This is what my fiance and I are doing. We got engaged almost a year ago and will be going to the courthouse in a couple months for the legal side of things. For reasons like benefits, tax purposes, and school it’s easier if we’re legally married. We both agree that it isn’t going to feel REAL though until we get Weddinged (hehe, love that there’s a term for it). Our wedding date is February 28, 2015.

  6. We just got legalled on April 13th and are getting weddinged August 1, 2015! We did it for the same reasons as you two – only I’m the lady breadwinner and my man is the poet who’s just out of grad school with an MFA and no immediate job prospects. Luckily, both sides of our family are very supportive of our decision. Of course, we still want to have a wedding with our family present, so we’ll be having one. Just doing things a bit backwards, I guess.

  7. This made my night! I posted a question on another wedding site and got harrassed to no end about us doing this. Thank you wonderful people for making my day! My wife and I were married in our town courthouse this past October for both reason that we can now legally get married in our state and the fact the my gov’t job recognizes that marriage and she can be on my insurance. Next November we are planning a big hoopla with all the trimmings and we can’t wait. We were excited for this year and are even more excited for next year! Hurrah for weddinged!!

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