Getting weddinged is what it’s called when you have a wedding after you’re already legally married

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Getting weddinged, verb: The act of having a wedding after you're already legally married.

We learned this term from Jeannie & Aaron of, who got married six years ago for the health insurance but are now planning their fall wedding.

Or rather, they're planning to get weddinged.

For more about getting weddinged, straight from Jeannie & Aaron's FAQ, keep reading…

Why do you guys keep saying you're getting “weddinged”? Aren't you getting married?Aaron and Jeannie have actually been legally married for about 6 years now.

What?! What the hell?!

OK, calm down. See, when Aaron and Jeannie first moved to Seattle, Jeannie worked part time and interned at the local NPR affiliate part time. And because of that, Jeannie didn't have any health insurance. She managed to cobble together some expensive, lousy coverage. Her best option was to pray to every god she could think of asking that she never get sick. Aaron, on the other hand, had a job at Microsoft. He had awesome health insurance. So after watching Jeannie struggle through a year of no coverage, Aaron offered to get her covered under his Microsoft insurance. The only way to do this was to get legally married. Aaron and Jeannie knew they wanted to be together, but they didn't want to go through a wedding ceremony. And they thought it was really stupid that Aaron had the Cadillac of health insurance while Jeannie's coverage was for total crap.

So why are you having a wedding now, after all this time?

Because we're ready to now. Geez, you're nosy. Honestly, now that we're in a mortgage together it kind of feels like the public declaration of love and commitment thing is really not that huge a deal.

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Comments on Getting weddinged is what it’s called when you have a wedding after you’re already legally married

  1. We’re actually in the opposite situation. We’re from canada, and I’m disabled (thank god I’m canadian) so I’m on disability income assistance. It’s a few bucks over $500 a month.

    My fiance doesn’t make alot of money, and my medication alone is over $400 a month that will no longer be covered once we get married. I loose the medical coverage and I loose my piddly government allowance that is just enough money for me to live at home with my parents.

    So we are postponing the wedding for as long as possible to be able to have my coverage for as long as possible. Because he just can’t afford to take care of me yet, and the government doesn’t care. As soon as we’re cohabitating, I’m cut off.

    It’s so painful to have to wait.

  2. We are doing this too but not for insurance, my gran has terminal cancer 🙁 And I wanted her there at my wedding.

    So legal stuff is happening in a few weeks with her as a witness, then a small family dinner to celebrate. Then next year we are getting ‘weddinged’ in Scotland just like we had planned all along.

    • This is what I’m considering right now as my mum has Alzheimers and can’t travel from Australia To Scotland where we want to get wedding’ed. Can I ask how it went?

  3. It’s SO great to read these comments! I felt like Aaron and I were the only people to do something like this…yay! But I have to give credit where credit is due. My excellent co-worker Jenny came up w/ the phrase “getting weddinged” one day over lunch when I explained what Aaron and I were doing.

    • We are getting “weddinged” on Labor Day! Our friend is the “Officiant” but is having trouble figuring out what to say. Do you have any advice or guidance?

  4. We almost did this – for insurance reasons, naturally. Turned out that I was still covered under my dad’s policy, so crisis averted…but we were all ready to get weddinged. It’s a great option for people who need the legal benefits of marriage but aren’t ready for the big party – or for those who want someone important to be there who might not make it otherwise.

  5. wow, the US health care system is seriously flawed…. i live in melbourne and i feel so gratefl of our healthcare system, it’s not the greatest in the world, but it seems world away from you poor guys in the US…

  6. I’m getting weddinged in 2 months! I’m glad there’s a name for it now, I’ve been calling it the fake real wedding for the last year.

  7. Reading about the health insurance in the USA and Canada is quite shocking. Makes me glad I don’t live there. In South Africa for about the equivalent of $130 a month we get full comprehensive which covers everything. And we think that’s expensive. We may have a failing health system but it sure looks rosy now.

  8. Gerlinde, to clarify: Canada has socialized healthcare. It’s only here in the good ol’ USA that we have privatized healthcare.

  9. My husband and I got legally married so we could both live in the US. When I moved to Sweden, I lived with him and became a legal resident based on cohabitation. In Sweden, it’s an official legal status called sambo.

    When we were ready to move to the US, we got legally married. We had our wedding ceremony and celebration 3 years later when we felt emotionally ready to be married and could afford the celebration we wanted.

    If either of us gets really sick, we may have to jump ship and move to the EU.

  10. just wanted to leave a quick note to say how much i love your blog here. the brides that come to me for photography are usually looking for a wedding that is a bit out of the norm and i am always sure to send them here for ideas. keep up the great work! 🙂

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