Wedding vows for atheists: no promises from the universe are expected #Ceremony Advice#atheist#vow examples#writing vows Updated Aug 10 2020 (Posted Aug 7 2020) Offbeat Editors Photos by Alexsandra Wiciel Biologist Richard Dawkins, asked whether Bach was inspired by God, replied that God was just what people wrote about in those days. “Imagine Beethoven’s Cretaceous Symphony," Dawkins suggested, asking his readers to think of all the great secular art we've missed out on. You could say the same about wedding vows. Traditional vows may mention religion, but wedding vows for atheists can celebrate the finite physical world just as beautifully. Dani and Chris created an elegant atheist tea party wedding for themselves with touches of leaves, crystals, bees, and dinosaurs. Inspired by this post, they wrote their vows with a straight-up — and totally romantic — announcement that they don't believe in heaven. On behalf of the (groom’s family name) and (bride’s family name) families, it’s my pleasure to say welcome to you all. We are called here today to celebrate the joining of two people who possess questioning natures. We celebrate the union of two people, of two hearts, but also of two minds making a conscious and deliberate choice to experience the great joys, and commit to the great sacrifices, of lifelong marriage. Danielle and Christopher don't believe there is an eternity waiting for them after this life; there is only this life. So, to give oneself in marriage for this lifetime isn't a way station on the way to some heavenly eternity. it is all there is. It is a commitment to be together until they no longer exist, until they are nowhere and nothing. When no edicts are handed down from the skies, and no promises from the universe are expected, each decision a person makes for his or her life bears more weight and consequence; two such people who make a decision to love one another until death have made a momentous commitment, fully of their own volition, with all the importance that an individual life can hold. Today we celebrate the union of two people who know fully that human life is finite, and that therefore we should waste no time in spending those precious years with those we have chosen to love. Only two people who know that life is lived here on earth, and only on earth, can fully offer each other their own eternities." At this time, Christopher and Danielle have some words that they would like to share with each other. In the words of Carl Sagan: "The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of starstuff. Every one of us is, in the cosmic perspective, precious… In a hundred billion galaxies, you will not find another. For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love. " Danielle and Christopher: Do you each take the other in marriage and agree to support, comfort, share truth, laugh, and respect one another today and for the rest of your days? ‘We do’ Make it so. Wedding vows for atheists don't have to be the same old traditional vows with the religious language scrubbed out. You can include the sense of wonder you feel for the beauty of the natural world. You can see everything from Dani and Chris's wedding right here, including their awesome photos… and you may also want to browse our archive full of dozens of atheist weddings for more ceremony ideas — we even have atheist ceremony scripts. Related Post How do you have a wedding ceremony without a Bible? We're ALL for Christian couples having religious ceremonies, but find it disrespectful for non-Christians to smile and nod through a religious service they don't actually believe in. So, how do… Read More PREVIOUS A Maine camp wedding photobombed by the couple's doggo NEXT This meet-cute story turned galaxy wedding is truly our moon and stars Show/Hide comments [ 2 ] Worth noting that this is pulled from vows used/written by the amazing Jen Dzuria on APW several years ago. Definitely read the whole article – lots of wonderful thoughts: https://apracticalwedding.com/atheist-wedding-vows/ Reply Thanks for noting that! The couple didn't include that attribution, but I've added it to the post. Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.