Safeguard your vows by emailing them to yourself before the ceremony

Updated Oct 12 2015
Wedding vow backup plan via @offbeatbride
Lizzy looking psyched to have her vows with her — Photo by Sarah Place Photography

A lot of technology-focused couples already read their vows from their smart phone or tablet, but in case you're opting to print out or write out your vows, it never hurts to have a backup in case you forget them.

Lizzy ended up forgetting her vows and reminded us why having a backup plan for everything is a smart choice:

If you write your own vows, don't forget to bring them with you to the wedding. I left the paper with my vows in the hotel room that I got ready in and didn't realize until about five minutes before walking down the aisle! Fortunately, I'd emailed the vows to myself, so I was able to access them via my phone. They ended up getting written down on a piece of cardboard from a tissue box, since we had no other paper source around!

See the rest of Lizzy and Derek's wedding because seriously, how can you not after seeing them in the photo above?

But what if you DO forget your vows?!


  1. Digital backups are always a good idea! My venue didn't have internet access, so we made all the pertinent files on Google Docs available offline. It's something to consider, just in case you have internet troubles on the day of the wedding!

  2. This is great advice for wedding readings too. I say this as someone who messed up the readings at my own wedding and at my sister's wedding. I had told my father in father-in-law that I would provide them with hard copies of their readings before the ceremony. About 15 minutes before the ceremony should begin my FIL asked me for his copy of the reading. I just stared at him blankly and just kinda repeatedly gasped. Luckily, he remembered that I had emailed him the text to review a few weeks ago. We all ran to the event manager's office to print out the email.

    At my sister's wedding a few years later I was supposed to read a Mr Rogers Poem. But I left the poem back in the hotel room. I didn't realize until the moment the minister called me up to read. And of course I had left my cell phone back in the hotel room too since I didn't want to be tempted by it. If I had just brought by phone I could have quickly Googled the poem. but no I just stood their like a deer in headlights.

  3. Yeah… I really wish I had simply emailed my vows to myself or written them on Google Drive. This, because I use the computer provided by my school as my personal computer, and those computers aren't exactly the most reliable things out there. As luck would have it, my hard drive crashed less than a month before the wedding, and I lost the ceremony, vows, and schedule I had written months before. It was easy enough to rewrite the schedule, not as bad as I expected to rewrite the ceremony, and nearly impossible to rewrite my vows. I had spent weeks working on them the first time, as it's hard for me to come up with really significant, meaningful loviness that I don't already say on a regular basis or at other occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, etc.). UGH!!!

  4. This is a great idea, but I consider it the responsibility of the officiant to have hard copies of any words being spoken during the ceremony — be they vows, readings by family members, or what-have-you.

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