We've talked about taking a wedding talk vacation, but what about implementing a complete wedding media ban?
I have sworn off all wedding-related things. Or, at least, things not related directly to my wedding. This includes TV shows, magazines, The Knot, and any other website that makes me have unrealistic expectations of my nuptials. I'm even starting to think about giving up Pinterest (gasp!). I love the pins, but reality is that I get overwhelmed in the wanting of things I simply cannot have. I'm giving up wedding media that makes me feel like my wedding is incomplete without the perfect quirkiness, or subtle vintage touches, or the perfect amount of bling! (You have to have bling! But not too much or it's just gaudy and no one wants that! *rolls eyes*)
This “wedding propaganda,” as I have so lovingly been calling it, has only overwhelmed me, smothered my own voice inside my head, and made me feel inadequate in the planning and execution of my own wedding. This is unacceptable.
These shows and magazines make me second guess my lovely dress, and tempt me with perfect $2,000 dresses I could never even dream to afford. They make me feel less worthy, less beautiful, and just overall LESS. And that is not okay.
I need to stop letting the media dictate how I feel at any given moment.
Tomorrow I am gathering up the magazines to donate to a friend who would like them, and clearing my DVR of “Say Yes to the Dress,” and all the David Tutera shows. (Boy, I love me some David Tutera though.)
It's going to be hard, not picking up the magazine and looking at all the new cool things. In the long run, though, this will be better. Better for my budget, my frazzled and deployed fiancé, and my self-esteem.
What about you? What did you do that was better for you in the end, even if it went against the wedding planning mindset?
If this idea intrigues you, you might also want to check out our post “When to stop looking at wedding porn.”