Our editor Megan is engaged and planning a wedding. We're tagging along with her as she plans over the next year so y'all can read, advise, and/or commiserate…
Why did I get so much done the first couple weeks of being engaged, and now I'm doing NOTHING? I was on a freaking roll! Guest list, hashtags, narrowing down dates… even looking at wedding dresses! We've been engaged for over a month, and now I'm dead in the water.
So, instead of things that I've gotten done, here are…
The things that I feel bad about not getting done:
Getting my ring re-designed
My ring was given to Mike by his bubbie, so it's too big and not my style. Instead of getting it re-sized, until I figure out what custom ring design I want, I've just secured it with one of my gold rings I always wear, and have just let it flop around my finger for over a month. It's driving me nuts, but I'm kind of at a loss design-wise. How did you guys handle rings that didn't fit?
Reaching out to more vendors
Man, that shit is hard. It's kind of like asking someone out on a date… you don't really know them, but you like the way they look, and they've written some cute things on their profile, so you want to reach out. But then what if things go wrong? And you don't end up being a match? But you've already agreed to go through with this wedding thing together… and, ugh. What made you guys eventually pull the vendor email trigger?
Articles we found helpful:
- My finacé Mike sent me FiveThirtyEight’s ultimate wedding playlist, based on the most popular songs on custom reception set lists. OBVIOUSLY Michael Jackson reigns supreme, I didn't need this article to tell me that. But we did think it's interesting to note that “everyone just wants to re-live their twenties.”
- Mike also sent me this one: How I Dumped the Wedding Industry. Again, not anything we haven't covered on Offbeat Bride, but it did introduce me to the concept of wine kegs.
- 6 tips for designing your own custom wedding ring with Joseph Jewelry — because I totally need to get my ring re-designed and I'm balking on that, just like I'm balking on picking vendors!
- And just for funsies, here's an actual conversation Mike and I had about how we're going to choose a ring bearer.
Did you ever get into the doldrums of wedding planning? How did you get yourselves out?