This morning a coworker of mine with whom I am friendly but don't see very often bustled over to me to ask about the wedding, and I just wasn't up for faking a smile and saying that everything was great. The wedding planning itself is going fine, but with everything else going on in my life right now, it's overwhelming and some things feel very difficult.
So I told her how I was feeling, and I got the impression that just wasn't what she wanted to hear, or that was the wrong answer and that planning my wedding should be the best time of my life, even if other parts of it are hard. Now I feel bad for being honest with her.
Should I just have said that everything is great?
I'm the queen of undersharing because I assume most acquaintances have no real interest in the less fun parts of life, but I'm assured by others that that's not actually the case. Either way, if this person isn't a friend or a close coworker, she may have just been fishing for a little upbeat news about a happy-ish topic.
Alternately, she may also be dealing with current events or life stuff and wasn't up for commiserating when she's also down in the mouth. And of course the third option is that she was totally cool with your less-than-fun answer about wedding planning and you were just misreading the situation. (Isn't interpersonal interaction fun and easy?) Even casual conversations can be riddled with doubt.
We recently talked about how you actually don't have to be a “happy bride” all the time. So maybe you don't have to be a fake thrilled bride-to-be with everyone. Or is it just easier to keep things within your circle?
I'm throwing it to our readers this time since they are surely dealing with constant questions about wedding planning when things aren't always the most chipper of times.
How do you handle wedding planning oversharing with coworkers and acquaintances?
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