OPEN THREAD: Would you have a weekday wedding?

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10My love has his mind set on getting married on a weekday – that is, on the day of our fifth anniversary, the 1st of April, 2014. A FREAKING TUESDAY!

I would love to get married on our anniversary, it's so meaningful. I know that many of our friends don't have plain regular Mo-to-Fr-9-to-5-jobs and would nevertheless have to schedule a leave day from their jobs (doctors, musicians, and so on). I know that many people will have to travel to attend our wedding and that I would be heartbroken if some can't make it. We're just not the kind of people who would enjoy a wedding ceremony and supper and then go to bed – we love to party, but we don't (he doesn't) want to party on the 36th of Whatnot, as if it were any kind of birthday party or something.

Would you have your wedding on a weekday? Would you, as a guest, attend a wedding on a weekday? -restlesshedonist

Ooh, we love this idea — and in fact Offbeat Bride has a whole archive of midweek weddings! That said, there certainly are some special considerations, including travel and partying.

We'd love to hear from those of you who had or are planning midweek weddings — did you get many guests saying they couldn't come? Did you party late into the night even though it was a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday?

Comments on OPEN THREAD: Would you have a weekday wedding?

  1. I’ve been to a weekday wedding. It was my Cousin’s wedding, and it was a Friday.

    For our family personally, it was very difficult to attend. Myself and my OH had to get a day off work, (my OH had literally just started a new job that week, so it was even harder for him) my Mum runs her own shop/post office and tea room and had to close for the day, because the girls who would work for us normally haven’t finished school yet, and can only work weekends.

    A few of her guests with kids couldn’t make it, because the kids weren’t allowed a day off school and therefore someone had to take them to school/pick them up.

    All in all, I think it prevented them from having the wedding they wanted, with the people they wanted. They’ve both said they wished they’d had it on the Saturday.

    I think you just have to consider your guest list. If the majority of people are able to do weekdays, then it shouldn’t be an issue. Think about who you would be disappointed couldn’t make it, and who you wouldn’t be disappointed about. If more of them would find it difficult on a weekday, then consider moving it to a Saturday near your anniversary and perhaps do something to honour that on the wedding day itself.

  2. I got married on a Wednesday. I lovvvvved it. We got married in this amazing chapel and had a great reception at a resteraunt in the middle of the day. Lots of dancing, laughing, eating, it was a great party! I think what made it even more fun, is that it felt like we were playing hooky, almost, while the rest of the world was going through their regular Wednesday drudgery, we were having this wonderful thing happen. It made it all the more special, I think. And yes, about 90% of the people we invited came, because when someone you love is getting married, thats what you do. Our friends still talk about how fun it was to sneak off for the day and celebrate. My sister got married on a Monday. Same deal. I love weekday weddings!

  3. I love the idea of weekday weddings and I would have mine during the week if I could. Unfortunately though it’s just a fact of life that for weekday weddings a lot of people won’t be able to make it, especially if they are traveling. So for us, it wouldn’t work. We’re only inviting about 50-60 people, and at least 75% of them are out of state. So no saving money for us. 🙁

  4. Been playing catchup tonight; please forgive the post-necromancy!

    FH and I will be tying the knot this Halloween, which, for those who don’t feel like fishing out a calendar, happens to be a Thursday. I originally hemmed and hawed over having a weekday wedding for fear people wouldn’t make it. Our friends would have none of it. The overall sentiment was, “Get married when YOU want to get married. People will make it or they won’t, regardless of the day of the week.” And, so far, they are absolutely right. Of the no-shows we’ve been forewarned of, exactly ONE has been “because it’s a Thursday.” The others are all people who simply couldn’t travel at that time of year, regardless of what day of the week it happened to fall on. Are weekends easier to plan? Yeah. Will most of the people who are your nearest and dearest probably make the effort? Based on my own experience, the answer is a resounding yes!

  5. What would you say about my case?
    40-50 guests. Every single one of them (aside from my brother who doesn’t mind flying out) lives in the same city we live in. “Travel time” for all guests is a 20 min. drive to the venue.

    I’m kind of in love with the idea of getting married on our anniversary but that would be a Monday in January (which also means, I’m assuming, we’d be saving loads of cash: weekday AND off season). Would people really flip out? We plan on getting everyone drunk so I guess at worst, I’m asking for 1.5 – 2 days off work for most (hangovers calculated).

    The next best option is to get the liscense and get for realsies married on a monday and have the reception on a friday. I guess. :/

  6. I am currently in the same pickle! Our fifth year anniversary falls on a thursday and to get married any other day feels so wrong, but doing it on a THURSDAY also feels rude. We are keeping it small and simple, but I know some people will not be happy (due to how unconventional it is). Screw it though, it’s our day and nothing is conventional about it to be begin with.

    • Update!
      We’ve actually booked the venue for the saturday before our 5th anniversary to make it easy for our guests. But since our officiant is a decades old friend to both of us, we’re fudging the papers so, technically, we will have gotten married two days later, on our 5th anniversary. Win/win!

  7. my venue is booked for tue as it is the date we wanted. In Australia people get plenty of annual leave. Family lives interstate and so would be travelling regardless of day of week. during summer it is $4000 cheaper and people coming are not strapped for cash. I have invited all immediate family uncles aunts but not cousins that we don’t have much to do with. As well as people we see weekly. We are counting on some not coming and will then invite more local friends. Everyone has been fine about the day of week (people hard up are usually those working weekends waiters, retail) apart from my fiancé’s dad whom is recently divorced and we were unsure about inviting anyway (same guy is a manager and has a million $ payout from gfs recent divorcé settlement). In my opinion wedding day is about u and your partner and if people can’t come they can politely say no. If I cared about someone I would travel during the week.

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