Your wedding music checklist and 7 planning tips to make it dead easy #Advice#checklist#music Posted Nov 6 2015 Catherine Clark bijouxandbits Danny and Johanna rocking their wedding. Photo by Kim Fox Photography Related Post Playlists, requests, and backup plans: What to ask your wedding DJ We've worked with lots of great DJs in our time, and finding the right one for you can be a really specific task. They've got... Read more Planning out the wedding music has always been top-of-mind for me, I think because it's so vital in setting the mood. A lot of offbeat couples approach it casually and either set up playlists for each part of the day or allow a DJ to run with it. If you're planning on taking more control of the music, these are the tips you'll need to make sure your wedding day is rocking in all the right ways. Figure out where your interests overlap Related Post A "melt your face & make your grandma dance" rock 'n' metal wedding playlist On my wedding profile, I got a question from one reader who asked "what type of metal did you play that the guests could tolerate... Read more You and your partner should see where there's overlap in your tastes and what types of music will be most appealing for your guests. We've compiled some pretty rad playlists that appeal to more family friendly music, even for metal and punk fans! Don't feel like Top 40 is your only option here. Once your list is set, you can start narrowing down options. Compromise on choosing specific songs Come up with a system to choose songs with your partner. Maybe you'll alternate choosing songs, maybe you'll each make a list and match them to specific events/times, or maybe you'll let one of you manage it all. Either way, set expectations ahead of time so that one of you isn't left feeling like the music is one-sided. Make a list of your favorite songs This is more for reference than anything else. You may find your perfect processional song in your favorite '90s band's repertoire once you've gotten out of the "traditional wedding music" mindset. You may not end up including all of these songs, but it'll get your head buzzing with ideas. Keep your options open Look in soundtracks/film scores, video game themes and soundtracks, television background music, and other less typical genres for songs with which you can connect. This is especially true if you're planning a specific theme like a geeky wedding (hello Pokemon theme song!), goth wedding (hell yes, Atreyu!), or '80s rock (kick-ass '80s cover band and Billy Joel!). Look for instrumental versions of your faves If you're opting to accommodate more traditional guests, consider looking for some of your favorite music in instrumental form. Bands like Vitamin String Quartet offer alternative genres in more traditional-sounding formats, like rock 'n' roll and geeky themes. Match your music to your reception activities If you're having a reception, determine if you want dancing, chilling with board games, mingling with appetizers, karaoke, etc. The music can definitely set a vibe for getting everyone out of their seats or settling in for a chill time. Consider do-not-play songs Some DJs don't recommend having a do-not-play list, but if there's a song you definitely don't want to hear (I'm looking at you, song I associate with my ex!), then be sure to note that in your brainstorming. Lovesick making music magic happen. Wedding music checklist: Related Post First dance songs that haven't been done to death The OBB team has compiled a pretty good list of totally not overused first dance songs from the silly, to the romantic, to the extremely... Read more Here's a more traditional run-down of music you can consider including if you're planning on the usual ceremony + reception lineup with events like the parent dances. If you're going a different route or skipping some of those traditions (totally cool to do!), you can alter this to match your own schedule. Pick and choose! Wedding ceremony music lineup • Pre-ceremony music played while your guests arrive and are seated. • Processional music played as the wedding party and the couple enters. • Recessional music played as you and the wedding party exit the ceremony. • Cocktail hour before the wedding reception music to which to mingle. Wedding reception music lineup Related Post Non-sappy father/daughter dance songs I've spent the last two days scouring the 'net for a father/daughter dance for our wedding reception, and frankly, virtually every suggestion I've come across... Read more • Ambiance music played as your guests arrive. • Your entrance music played as you enter the venue, often a little more lively to get everyone psyched. • First dance music, if applicable. • Parent dances, if applicable. • Dance or party music depending on what you chose for your reception activity goals. • Garter and bouquet toss music played if you're planning on tossing a garter and/or a bouquet (or something else entirely!) • Cake-cutting music if you'll have a cake. • Last dance music saved for the end of the reception. Need more wedding music tips? Related Post Yes, you can use Spotify as your wedding DJ Before we got married, I read SO MANY posts about how it's just easier to hire a DJ and not worry about ceremony music on an iPod. Still... I wasn't… Read More Related Post Easily edit your wedding songs to snip out the sad (or too long) bits We need to edit out a sad bit in one of our ceremony songs, but that kind of computer magic is beyond me. How can we easily edit a song? Read More Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Catherine Clark Catherine Clark loiters at her local library, makes art, watches movies en masse, plays video and tabletop games, poorly cooks healthy things, cuddles with her feline fur babies, and blogs at BijouxandBits.com. @enidjcoleslaw @bijouxandbits @bijouxandbits PREVIOUS The "I'm bored at a wedding" inclusive, LGBT, multi-ethnic children's activity book NEXT Inspiration for your DIY wedding shoes Show/Hide comments [ 5 ] Oh thank you so much for this! We're going the ipod route and this breakdown is so helpful for planning it all out! Reply This is so useful! The one thing I would add is to look for your favourite songs sung by different artists, or in different languages, or in the original version. Charles Aznavour's 'She' may sound cheesy in English, but is decidedly more classy in Italian (and even German!). And while we'd never play Beyonce, we're more than happy to have her inspiration for 'Crazy in Love' on our list (the Chi-Lites 'Are you my woman'). Many of our playlist songs are recognisable but intriguingly different, and will go nicely with our mellow-no-dancing-vintage wedding. We've ended up with a massive and very 'eclectic' playlist lasting 10 hours, spanning nigh on 10 decades worth of songs. But, until this article came along, I would not have thought about splitting it into different sections, which makes perfect sense now. Thank you! Reply Great post! I was very lucky for my wedding, me and my husband have a very similar taste in music. I love the suggestion of having a do not play list. I wish I would have thought of that. Reply Thanks for sharing Reply Music plays a huge role in creating the perfect atmosphere at any wedding. And having the right music playing at the right time to create desired ambiance takes planning! It is important to soak up these tips for selecting wedding music for the different parts of wedding day.Thanks Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.