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My future mother-in-law wants me to do something at our wedding to honor the people who recently died in our family, one of them being her husband. And then she went on to mention that she would like us to honor her mother (who died over 20 years ago). AND THEN she said that I should also mention my two grandmothers, my uncle, and my cousin who all passed away. Um, is it me, or would that make for an INCREDIBLY depressing moment at a wedding?
-Sara
Here's an easy solution that makes everyone happy: get some wedding photo charms to hang from your bouquet.
You can put photos of all the deceased into the charms, and have them quietly but respectfully dangling from your bouquet for your entire wedding day. That way there's no need to harsh your guests' mellow by making a memorial announcement at the reception. Just make sure your photographer gets some shots of the bouquet. Then, you could even get a print of that photo framed special for your mother-in-law.
These little charms are super inexpensive — you can get them for about $5.
You can find more memorial ideas in our massive wedding memorial archive!
what a GREAT solution. kudos!
Awww! What a sweet idea!
*sniff*
I didn’t know what to do or how to get them into my wedding…..you just morbidly, but happily, made my day!
My grandfather passed away a little over a year ago and I have been missing him immensely throughout the planning of my wedding. I was just having this conversation with my fiance and mother this evening about it being “creepy” having our lost loved ones pictures somewhere at our wedding. This is a wonderful remedy to my dilemma. Thank you!!
I was faced with the same dilemma, except my MIL wanted to put a bouquet on an empty chair (oh the horrors) for my FI’s grandmother, which my mom was strongly against. This is a GREAT solution. The people that want to be happy are happy, and nobody needs to be the wiser.
That is a GREAT idea! My fiancé’s sister died a year ago. But my mom died 15 years ago. And I wanted to acknowledge both, but didn’t know how. Thank you.
this is a beautiful idea.
FH and i are going to put three small black a white photos of my mom, my dad and FH’s father to honor them. hopefully it will be enough that guests notice but descreet enough to not send them into mourning mode.
I love this idea!
my father passed away a few years back and by the time the wedding comes around it will be almost 5 years to the day.
this is an excellent way to honour him! thanks so much.
i might also have a “in loving memory” vase full of roses (my dad’s fav flower).
I love this idea. I have 3 people to honor – My grandmother on my mom’s side, and my grandparents on my dad’s side. They all did charity work, so in honor of that I’ll be displaying pictures and a description of them, and inviting people to donate gloves and canned goods (our wedding is right before Thanksgiving.)
That’s a great idea! You could also have a small table at the reception that has family pictures including them on it.
My FH’s younger daughter and mothere (who has alzheimer’s) can’t be at our wedding. So we are having pictures of them on our altar. It’s a little different, but pictures are powerful.
The other thing you could do is make a general mention maybe at the reception with a nice slow dance of “all those who have passed on.”