Karaoke at my wedding: is this a terrible idea?

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My partner and many of our friends adore karaoke. We've talked about having karaoke for half an hour to forty five minutes of our reception (our reception will be five hours total including a cocktail “hour”). We've mentioned this to a few people and have gotten mixed reviews. Some people adore it, others can't keep their eyebrows from reaching their hairline.

Is there a particular time that it makes sense to do something like this? I definitely think it should be towards the end of the reception but don't really want to end our party with karaoke. And is there a way to ward off those that are tone deaf? I'm also a bit concerned about song selections that may be offensive to grandma.


Well, first we'll say this: If wedding karaoke is a terrible idea, you're in great company!

You might want to consider a few factors like…

  • Having a few planted friends to sing pre-selected songs and limiting the selection of tracks.
  • Also, for the sake of your non-singing guests, make sure there's a place for guests to go if they want to opt out of the karaoke and just chat.

We'd love to hear from those of you planning to belt it out at your receptions: how'd you manage your karaoke logistics? For those of you married types who did karaoke, what were your biggest tips for wedding karaoke success?

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Comments on Karaoke at my wedding: is this a terrible idea?

  1. I love the idea of Karaoke and have been tossing around the idea for our wedding as well. I’m pretty sure it’s a go

  2. My husband and I just featured karaoke at our wedding two weeks ago, and while at the time I thought it was a great idea, I realize now it wasn’t. We also had friends that are hardcore karaoke-ers, and let me tell you… they weren’t the ones that did it. The drunk second cousins that could barely form non-slurred words were the one screaming their tunes into the mics. It is literally the only thing I would redo if I had the chance.

  3. Could you put it on the RSVP card? That way you would have the list of those who would like to participate in advance and also their song requests. If someone wanted to sing who was pretty tone deaf or chose an inappropriate song, you could say, “Sorry, we had so many people who wanted to participate that there just wasn’t enough time, so we had to make it first come/first served (or some other option). Maybe we’ll have to hit up a karaoke bar in the next few months so I can hear you sing!” Hopefully, this way, nobody’s feelings are hurt, but you get to have just the karaoke singers that you select.

  4. I think that if you love karaoke, then go for it. But, if you have an open bar, you may want to have the karaoke during the cocktail hour or early on, so you don’t have ridiculously drunk people singing. Also, you may be able to only have a limited number of songs available, pre approved by you and your significant other or approved as you go along by a DJ or something.

  5. Do it!! We’re having karaoke at our wedding. We come from a friend group who are not very big into dancing, but loved group Rock Band in its day and karaoke. We’re even having a “first song” to open up the mic.

    Here’s a link to the wedding video of a very hip couple who inspired the whole idea for us 🙂 I found their video while searching for ideas to decorate our reception venue, which will be in the lobby and on the 2nd floor of this refurbished theatre 2 blocks from our house.

    As for drunk cousins and inappropriate songs – that was something we addressed with our DJ. He has a “no play” list and is going to act as a mic bouncer to help deter people from getting out of hand. We also have a bartender who is going to help keep the alcohol consumption at a level we feel comfortable with.

  6. We had rock band at our after party (we had an early end time at our wedding venue so we rented the banquet room above a bar from 9pm-12midnight). While it isn’t specifically karaoke, there is the singing element.

    Honestly, it was awesome. Yes, people were drunk and no, not everyone was a good singer. But having the words and the sort of bar that shows the tune in rock band was super helpful in keeping people on track. Plus, nobody wants to fail their team and the level when it’s a game.

    If you want karaoke, using a game system version like rock band or karaoke revolution might be a good option!

  7. I think your advice is spot on. Stick with that structure and it should be fine.

  8. We’re using a Rock Band/Guitar Hero setup, so that people who cannot sing to save their lives (myself included) can still rock people’s socks off.

  9. I’m a firm believer in doing whatever you want on your wedding day! I wouldn’t say a word, the Karaoke machine would magically appear the last hour and half of the reception after everyone is fully lubricated. And I would maybe tell the people who love Karaoke ahead of time. If I weren’t the biggest scardy cat I would sing the cheesiest love song to you! Rock on with your bad self.

  10. We had a weekend wedding, and we had karaoke the night before in one of the meeting halls at the conference center we were at. It worked out well and was a lot of fun, but we do karaoke with many of our friends (in fact, for our bachelor/ettes we both went out of town and…did karaoke with our friends) and one of our best friends (who loves karaoke more than we do and is comfortable being on stage) KJed, and since he knew most people and had karaoked with many of them, he could stack songs by skill of singer in addition to temp/mood etc. And push people with less talent to the bottom of the stack. Since we had close t 100 people there really only the decent ones were stepping up anyway. It was nice that there was a big deck where people could hang out outside, a big lawn in front the kids were running around on who didn’t care about karaoke, and a fire pit out back where people could chill; so I agree that maybe have a separate chill out area (cool cocktail corner? Guestbook and photo station?) Where people who don’t like it can get away. 🙂

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