Wedding invitation wording that won’t make you barf (Updated for 2021!)

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I just got engaged, and I'm already freaking out about invitation wording.

The wedding is being hosted by the groom and I, and it would be completely unlike us to just include the traditional “First-name Middle-name Last-name and First-name Middle-name Last-name request the pleasure of your blah blah blah.”

All that old fashioned formal talk makes me want to barf — it's just not us! We need more fun, more personality, and less stodgyness.

Help? —Lisette

First, congratulations on your engagement, and welcome to Offbeat Bride! We're all about celebrating couples who venture off the beaten aisle, and we're super excited to help you scheme.

Now, let's dork out about wedding invitation wording.

If you think using your full names is traditional, I hate to think what you'd think of ye olde “Mr. and Mr. Smith invite you to join them in a celebration of love as [their child] is united in marriage to [their partner], son of Mr. and Mrs. Brown.”

You're probably relatively familiar with this standard wedding invitation etiquette, right? It looks sorta like this:

Doctor and Mr. Ryan Richard Smith, Jr.

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of

Robin Smith to

Casey Brown


Sunday, the tenth of September

two thousand nineteen

at half after four o’clock

Happy Friends Church

Tampa, Florida

and afterward at the reception

Hilton Hotel

347 Main Street

That's the traditional wedding invitation wording etiquette… and for couples planning formal weddings, that kind of traditional wording totally makes sense — but for the rest of us? It feels like putting on someone else's coat: a little stiff and a lot uncomfortable.

But never fret. I've got some quick tips and examples of wedding invitation wording that feels like your favorite old t-shirt — but, you know, a little fancier. Here are our tips…

Keep it basic

Your best bet with wedding invitation wording is to stay basic — not necessarily formal, but simple and easy to understand. Guests often skim invites, and if you get too cutesy, clever, or longwinded, you increase the likelihood that someone will get confused.

Remember: especially if you're having a nontraditional wedding, your nontraditional wedding invitation's wording needs to focus on minimizing confusion… because you're going to be maximizing disorientation. I vote for straightforward wording, with maybe one little piece of flair tossed in. Your wedding might confuse more traditional guests — don't let your invitation wording be confusing too!

Tell them what to do next.

The biggest mistake most couples make is forgetting to help their guests know what to do next. Always make sure you end with a call to action, telling your guests to RSVP or go to your wedding website. (Ooh, speaking of which — did you know we do free wedding websites with bad-ass, totally non-froofy templates? Yeah, we do.)

SO IN LOVE… let's have some cake! Invitations by Greenvelope

Ok, so now for specific unique wedding invitation wording examples!

We've collected some of our favorite offbeat wedding invitation wording examples from our readers.

We divided them by who's paying for the wedding since much of the “choose your own adventure” of wedding invitation wording comes down to finances…

FLOAT wedding invitation design from Greenvelope

Family included

Because you have believed in them,
Celebrated with them
Loved and encouraged them,
We, ParentName and ParentName LastName
And OtherParentName and OtherParentName LastName
Ask you to join us in honoring our children
[partner 1]
[partner 2]
As they celebrate the beginning of their adventures together
Date and location
Bring your dancing shoes
dinner and music immediately following ceremony

Moderno Letterpress Wedding Invitations

[Parents' names]
call for the contentment of your company
at the marriage of
[Partner 1]
[Partner 2]
Saturday, the eleventh of July,
two-thousand & twenty one
at half-past five in the evening
Dress as you wish, dine as you like, dance as you please
further details & a few cute photos at wedding website
RSVP postcard wording:
Please join us for dinner, dancing & dalliance!
Kindly RSVP by date

  1. attending: ______

name(s): ______________

Please choose one:
__ accept with pleasure
__ decline with regret
__ accept with regret
__ decline with pleasure

Your love and friendship have
helped us become who we are.Together with our parents,
we invite you to share our joy
and support our love,
as we exchange vows and
celebrate our marriage.
Sunday 23rd August at 2 o'clock
The Ashes, Endon, Staffordshire
A celebration with dinner, drinks
and dancing will follow.
Rustic wedding invitation from Greenvelope
Becca Middle Last
Daughter of [bride's parents] and [partner],
Son of [their parents]
Are Gettin' Hitched!
Please join us
For a celebration of love, friendship,
Laughter and family
PlaceFabulous food, fun, and festivities to follow


This one reverses the wording to include the children of the engaged:

Warm ocean waves will do the clapping,
as our vows we say.
The bright, blue sky will be our canopy,
on our wedding day.
Please join Duane & Valarie
Along with their lovely daughters,
Katherine, Elizabeth, Isabelle & Cheyenne
as we continue our life journey together
a blended family,
uniting legally & lawfully.
Rustic mountain wedding invitations from Greenvelope
“You're the echoes of my everything… you're the reason why I burst and why I bloom.” ~Motion City Soundtrack,
[Partners] along with their families,
invite you to their garden party wedding
for a whimsically reverent celebration of love
Saturday, June 27, 2019
food, drink, and merriment to follow
Sequoia wedding invitation from Greenvelope

Humorous and funny wedding invitation wording

Until Death invitations from Minted
You are totally invited to the wedding of
Partner & Partner
Sunday, the twenty-seventh of September
two thousand and nine
at five in the evening
Addressceremony followed by dinner, drinks, and awkward but enthusiastic dancing
[rsvp card:]
we will be attending your awesome wedding
[ ] True
[ ] False
{___} guests will be attending
[enclosure card:]
Need more info?
Are you wondering…
where to stay?
what to do in town?
whats on the menu?
where the wedding is?
who are these people?
Please visit
wedding website


Partner & Partner
Invite you to join the fun
As they stand together
with sweaty hands & open hearts
extending their friendship to include the vows of marriage.
location and time
Dinner, dancing, and merriment to follow
Costumes encouraged
Wedding website

You In Or What (Two Grooms) Save The Date Cards

Sittin' inna tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G
First came love,
Now comes marriage.
They are goin to the chapel,
and are gonna get ma-a-arried.
Put your glad rags on and join us
We'll have fun when the clock strikes two.
Our hands are shakey and our knees are weak,
Who do you thank when you have such luck?
Bells will ring, the sun will shine.
I'll be his and he'll be mine.
From the day we say I do,
We'll love until the end of time,
And we'll never be lonely anymore.
Please join us on
Saturday June 25th, 2021
The Farmer's Museum

Antler Fancy Wedding Invitations

First comes love, now comes marriage!
Come celebrate with us as we tie the knot on Sunday, October 10th, 2021.
Festivities will begin at 1:00 with dinner, dancing, and happily-ever-afters to follow.
And this is what the RSVP cards said:
Who's In?
_ Will be there with bells on!
_ Will attend, no bells.
_ Will not attend, has bell phobia. Sends regrets.

Casual wedding invitation wording

Double Rainbow Wedding Invitations

Because your love and friendship have made us who we are,
And because you enjoy good beer and barbecue as much as we do,
Invite you to join them at their wedding
Local Brewery
Doors open for guests to arrive at 6:30 p.m.
Wedding ceremony begins at 7 p.m.
Barbecue/reception continues at 7:15 p.m.


For you I know I'd even try to turn the tide. – Johnny Cash
With joyous hearts we invite you to share in our weekend of celebration
as best friends become husband & wife, wife & wife, husband & husband, etc.
(insert your preferred pronouns)
Friday, the Twenty-Third of January
Two Thousand and Eleven
At Five o'clock
The Inn at
Woodloch Pines Resort
Stay with us for a weekend
of hot cocoa and warm company
January 23-25, 2019
Wedding website link


Partner met partner
For the rest of the story join us on
June 20, 2019
Celebration will begin
at 4 o'clock
in the afternoon.
Ceremony at dusk.
Shenandoah, Iowa
For directions, accommodations, events of the day, R.S.V.P, and much more, please visit our wedding website.

Big City – New York City Wedding Invitations

photostrip of four photos of the couple, holding up cards that read:
we're getting married!
you should totally come!
it's in Hobart on Saturday 17th December.
head to
for more info.
we can't wait
to see you there!
Invitation from Minted
no church, no aisle, no chairs…
just two crazy people in a field
vowing to each other a lifetime
of dirty jokes and random misadventures
please join us as we commit ourselves!
Visit our website for more information!

Invitation wording with special requests

Invitation from Minted
Groom and Bride joyfully invite you to share in our celebration of love and commitment.
Please join us
at the Location
Ceremony on the back lawn at 5:00 pm
to be followed by an evening of food, music, dancing, and laughter
Guests are encouraged to dress creatively and comfortably.
Please keep in mind that we are planning an outdoor ceremony.
High heels and uncomfortable formal wear are not recommended.
[on a separate card:]
About Gifts:
The very best present we can receive is your presence at our wedding and your love and support as we embark on this adventure together.
We recognize that especially for those of you coming from far away, simply attending our wedding will already entail spending money on travel and hotel accommodations.
Homemade, handmade, and second hand gifts are welcomed and appreciated.
Many of you are contributing your time and energy to this event, and for the gift of your participation we thank you.
To make it easier for the more traditional gift givers among you, we have set up a registry on
Paperless Ecofriendly Online Invitations from
This is a paperless eco-friendly wedding invitation from Greenvelope

Reception-only wording + gift requests:

You're invited to the post-ceremony celebration
of Ell and Eff
on July 16, 2019.
Cook-out, yard games, and swimming
begin at noon!
At the home of Dubbleyou and Effy
on 2206 Road Lane Court
in Jeffersonville, IN
We are fortunate enough to have all of the customary
items needed to start a home.
If you wish to contribute in some way,
we are asking for Lowe's gift cards to
renovate and update our home.

No family mentions


Punch & Judy
are tying the knotcelebrate with us:
sing, cry, drink, dance, play, and eatceremony & reception:
please bring an instrument if you have one
i'd rather sleep in a box like a bum on the street
than a fine feathered bed without your little cold feet
– guy clarke, magnolia wind

Geeky weddings


They've earned enough EXP.
The princess isn't in another castle.
He is her One.
She is his Constant.
Their power level, it's OVER NINE THOUSAND!!!1!
ahem… So… Not long from now, in a venue relatively close by,
J and H will be getting married!
Sunday, October 10, 2021at 2:10 pm
[Venue info here]
Pizza, Cupcakes, Dancing, Guitar Hero, and other Festivities to follow!
Got it memorized?
Formal wear? Inconceivable!
Seriously, we're geeks, people. Okay… so for our wedding we might look a bit more spiffy than usual, but we encourage all our guests to dress in whatever they feel is comfortable. Bright colors FTW! Oh, but we're not responsible for what happens if you decide to wear a red shirt.
All Your Gifts Are Belong to Us
We already have a hatch-load of stuff. However, if you're feeling particularly generous we're registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond, Target, and Gil, Munny, or Rupees are also acceptable.
We Can Haz Guest List Nao?
If you're planning to celebrate with us, that would be awesomesauce! Let us know soon, though, mmmmkay? You can RVSP by phone at [number], via teh Interwebs, or by owl post. By the way, those not in attendance may be subject to burnination.
We're in UR mail, blowin' UR mind
WTF, right? Wondering what we're talking about? Don't panic. If you need some help decoding this L337 invitation, check out our site at wedding website.

Las Vegas wedding invitation wording

Lucky In Love Save The Date Cards

Gambling man & High rolling chick
Take a gamble on forever
Viva Las Vegas Wedding Chapel
Las Vegas, Nevada
Bowling and merriment to follow
The Orleans Hotel Bowling Alley
3:30 pm

Halloween wedding invitation wording (and other assorted creepiness)

Fall, Halloween, Zombies, Movie Monsters. Spooky!

Slated Forever Foil-Pressed Wedding Invitations

Delightfully Dark Wedding Invitations

“With this hand,
I will lift your sorrows.
Your cup will never empty,
for I will be your wine.
With this candle,
I will light your way in darkness.
With this ring,
I ask you to be mine”
– The Corpse Bride, Tim Burton
FH & Me
would like you to join them
as they exchange vows.
date, time, location
Smart, casual dress is preferred.

Autumn Storm All-in-One Foil-Pressed Wedding Invitations

As crisp Autumn colors her leaves
Love is entwined on All Hallow's Eve
When the sun drops out of the sky of blue
There will be a Halloween Party
with a wedding skew
Join Spooky Bride and Scary Groom
along with their families
as they join as one
in a night filled with fun
Date, time, location
Reception to follow
lastname/lastname presents
A Casual Attire Wedding
The Bride The Groom
“Creatures in Wedlock”
Wedding and Reception: 95416 Hwy 101
RSVP by July 22
Event Premiers On August 22, 2021 at 6:00pm

Steampunk Foil-Pressed Wedding Invitations

NerdFaceinvite you to join them
as they commit to
survive the zombie apocalypse
together.July 27, 2021
Passenger Station
2310 Montana Avenue
at XX:XXpm

City All-in-One Foil-Pressed Wedding Invitations

“When we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into
mutually satisfying weirdness and call it love , true love.” – Robert Fulghum
for all the gory details please visit our wedsite:
wedding website
Lady & Dude
Request that you partake in the mayhem at their
Monster Mash Wedding Bash
Saturday October 30, 2021 at 6:00 pm
1300 Hanover St Hanover, Md 21076
Adult reception immediately following the tying of the knot.
Food, candy, desserts, dancing & drunken debauchery to be had by all.
Costumes & creative attire highly encouraged.

High Wedding Invitations

Renaissance and Medieval wedding invitation wording

Lady Dutchess of NorthSouthShire
Sir Duke of NorthWestVille
Hereby request the honour of thy presence
at their wedding ceremony
on Saturday, the thirteenth of December,
Two thousand and Eight
The ceremony shall commence at
four o'clock in the afternoon
They therefore extend their warmest greetings
to all ye Lords and Ladies with an invitation
to an evening of music and revelry
following immediately thereafter

Column Rule Wedding Invitations

A. N.
L. E.
Most humbly request the magnificent
honour of thine incomparable presence
to bear witness to the grand spectacle
of marriage between their two houses
Feasting, merriment and combat to follow.

Pink Blossoms Wedding Invitations

So, what's next?

Oh, we've got no shortage of things to do here…

Comments on Wedding invitation wording that won’t make you barf (Updated for 2021!)

  1. Just to add to the mix, this is our wedding invite preamble:
    A romantic story

    When Sonia was young, a very long time ago, she asked her Dad whether he thought she’d ever find someone to love and settle down with, to which her fabulously witty and poetic father replied,
    Every mouldy biscuit has a funky cheese
    Luckily for Sonia she met her funky cheese, Ben, just in the nick of time before the fungi completely took a hold of her and she was naught but a blue musty dust in the back of the bread bin.
    So careful not to let each other out of their sight and desirous of experiencing what’s left on the cheese
    board of life together, whether it be a wilted stick of celery or a delicious pickle…
    They’re jumping the broomstick!

  2. Ours was a poly wedding with three people, and I was anxious about calling it a “wedding” officially for a long time because it wasn’t legally binding, just a celebration ceremony for us. So our invitations don’t actually mention “wedding” or “marriage” at all. Of course, I was also anxious people wouldn’t realise it WAS a wedding, so we included a little FAQ sheet with a few clarifications. So our invitation wording was:

    Bride’s first name, Groom’s first name and Bride’s first name
    invite you to join us for afternoon tea and champagne in celebration of our love and commitment to one another.
    Location, time and date details
    Please respond by RSVP date

    And in the questions slip (which was titled “Handy Reference Guide” because our wedding had a library theme):

    Is this a wedding?
    By Australian law we can’t legally get married, but as far as we’re concerned, yes, this is our wedding! We’re celebrating our love for each other and our ongoing commitment to the family we want to build together, and we want to share it with the people closest to us who have loved and supported us for so many years.

    I agonised over this wording for ages since it can be hard to find examples of this sort of stuff for poly weddings (and it’s especially hard to find examples that are specifically relevant to your own family because poly families are perhaps even more varied in structure than mono ones) so hopefully someone else might find it useful 🙂

  3. I’m having a problem figuring out the wording for my invites for a few reasons:
    * Our wedding is offbeat lite, so I’d like fun, but a little more traditional wording
    * My parents are contributing financially to the wedding, so we would like to include them in the invites
    * His mom is bipolar, so including my parents and NOT including her would cause issues
    * His dad passed away, but he would still like to include him somehow
    * This is a second marriage for me, and I kept my married last name. However, because I’ll be changing it to my man’s last name, I don’t feel it’s appropriate to have my ex-husband’s last name on my wedding invites. Should go with our first and middle names?
    * I have a daughter, and we would like to include her on the invites somehow too!

    So you can see how this would be a HUGE struggle! However, these are some great ideas, and hopefully I’ll be able to take some of them and mix them together to create something that works for us!

  4. What a brilliant post! I really didn’t want to have to follow the boring wording seen in so many invites so this is fantastic inspiration! Also gives me the courage to write as I wish! 🙂

  5. I absolutely love this! Thank you for this post! This is extremely helpful! As soon as I finalize our wording I’ll add it here. <3

  6. So, my boyfriend and I are hosting, we chose a casual invite with a bit of a party feeling to it to reflect the atmosphere we hope to have at the actual wedding & reception. And it’s just the invite, no inserts or rsvp cards – the invites direct guests to a wedding website. But now am I struggling just to get the ADDRESS wording right. It seems so formal to address envelopes to Mr. and Mrs. Jones. Is it ok to use just first & last names, such as Jeremy and Melissa Jones and leave off the Mr./Mrs./Ms. titles altogether? My concern is that the more formal makes me a little uncomfortable and seems too fancy considering how casual the invitations are, but I also don’t want to bypass all traditions and rules of etiquette so that I come off as flippant or tacky. Suggestions, please!!

  7. Thank you for this! My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves so we’ve been trying to figure out how we want to word our invitations for our wedding ski weekend. HUGE help!

  8. My fiancee is a drummer and I am a concert photographer… so of course this needs to show in the invitations somehow.

    We are going to have backstage-pass invitations and this sure gave me some ideas in terms of wording 🙂

  9. Hey there,

    Cruising through this with my fiancée, and we’re definitely getting inspired by some of the creativity of these invitations… Love your catchy title 🙂

    Almost 5 years together now, it’s almost time to get to get cracking on some invitations!

  10. My parents are hosting the wedding and we would like to include them on the invitation. However, I am keeping my maiden name after we get married. Will putting just my first and middle name on the invitation come across as if I’m taking his name? Can I put my full name on the invitation or would that look weird since my parents full names are above..

    “Mr. and Mrs. Brides parents request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter”

    “Brides full name”
    “Grooms full name”

    • From someone who’s been there (as far as not-taking-names goes), there is nothing I have found that will make it look decisively like you are or aren’t taking your spouse’s name — people will either assume, ask, or pay attention. We’re getting invitations done by a local artist who had a bunch of beautiful samples around, and some of them were just first-name and first-name! They still were able to be gorgeous and semiformal.

      Use whatever names on the invitations you like, though! It will be fine. 🙂

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