Why you should consider boudoir photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love my body

Guest post by Ms. N
The sexy Ms. N rockin' the boudoir shoot, shared with her permission. Photo by Seattle Boudoir Photography
The sexy Ms. N rockin' the boudoir shoot, shared with her permission. Photo by Seattle Boudoir Photography

Let me preface this with two things…

  • First, I have never been the type to want to be immortalized in my unmentionables (i.e., I never thought I would want to get photographed in my undies before). It wasn't something that I had been dying to do all my life.
  • Second, I am a plus-size girl who is not altogether comfortable with her body and who consistently has some self-love issues.

That being said, let me tell you why you (yes, YOU) should consider boudoir photography…

This past Saturday I had a boudoir shoot with Seattle Boudoir Photography and it was honestly the most liberating experience of my life. I was nervous and apprehensive going into it.

I've never been completely comfortable with my body, and even less so now that I am in my 30s and have stretch marks and scars and even some lovely VEINS that mark who I am and where I've been throughout the past 32 years.

I kept having the thought in my head that these people who would see me half-naked would be completely grossed out and would be disappointed that they could not make me look decent in any photos.

Boy, was I wrong.

I got to spend 2 hours with amazing people who, very honestly and sincerely, thought that I looked beautiful, and did everything they could to make sure that I knew it. And not only KNEW it, but FELT it, too. Nobody ever once looked at me and said, “Oh, I sure wish you were thinner,” or “Wow, those stretch marks really take away from this photo.”

What I heard instead was, “Oh, you have killer boobs!” and “You look so hot in that pose, for real!” I could NOT believe my ears. And really, that was all it took for me to suddenly realize this:

I'm freakin' HOT!

It doesn't matter about size or scars or weight or anything. What matters is how you FEEL. And I have never been more amazed at how comfortable I could be with myself.

So. If you can swing it, you should totally consider boudoir photography because:

  1. You get to be comfortable in your own body, even if you were already.
  2. Lots of people complimenting you and telling you how hot you look!
  3. Did I mention the wonders it does for your self-esteem?
  4. It's an excuse to buy really cute lingerie.
  5. Again — what better way to encourage self-love?

Oh and if you're wondering, “But what will I actually DO with the boudoir photos?,” Offbeat Home & Life has the answer to that.


Comments on Why you should consider boudoir photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love my body

  1. I love this! Thank you for sharing! What a wonderful gift this will be…I’m excited for my own session!

  2. i am totally PRO boudoir photography, for all the reasons you say. what i’ve found baffling recently though, as i plan a wedding, is what it has to do with weddings! i mean, i guess it’s a trend or something to do a boudoir shoot around your wedding? but i’ve always associated them more with married women, probably just because that was the context i’d heard about it in the past (like on roseanne!).

    i think boudoir photography makes more sense than engagement shoots. but i’m pro porn* too.

    *i actually think boudoir photos are porn, but i realize some people make a distinction. basically, if it’s intended to tittilate sexually, it’s porn in my book. and it’s not a judgement call, that’s just how it is.

  3. I really like this post and the photo of you is 100% awesome. Glad you had such a great experience and came away feeling so empowered! Wonderful stuff to read 🙂

  4. As an average-to-thin girl who still wants to be thinner (no eating disorders or anything) I still never have felt any disgust toward the more voluptuous ladies. My own mother is a very very big woman and I never think about this fact in any critical way, beyond the obvious health concerns. I myself am not a health nut, so i can’t even preach that without feeling like a fraud.

    Aside from the short rambling session there, I had to mention something. A year or so ago, one of my girl friends asked who I thought were my prettiest friends (she considered me to be one of hers) and the first 3 girls who came to mind were all girls that the world would consider “plus-size”… they just all rock the confidence thing. it makes them so so hot. Size doesn’t matter if you make it a point to love yourself and not hide that you do.

  5. As a photographer who has done a lot of boudoir shoots, I couldn’t agree more. I learned the craft from a very classy woman and we never shot anything distasteful. We had clients from young single ladies who just wanted to do something nice for themselves to women whose loved ones were off fighting in Iraq to a couple in their late 50s who wanted some sexy photos for their anniversary. No matter how nervous people were before, we made sure they felt comfortable. Once we got going, everyone was having fun. I definitely learned that everyone is beautiful and we made sure that they knew it too and that they saw it in their images! Everyone we worked with felt more confident afterwards. It is great to see people really become comfortable with their own bodies.

  6. Ms. N,
    I really can’t thank you enough for this post. I didn’t think seriously about bouidoir photography because of my size (though wished I could because it was such a cool idea). But after reading this, based almost entirely on our your story, I booked a shoot, which I did this past weekend. It was one of the best experiences of my life. I have never felt so sexy, so beautiful, and honestly never thought I could feel this good about myself. Before I went in worry about getting a good shot with all my rolls, but now, waiting for the pictures, I’m not even worried because I know my photographer got some truly fantastic photos. Thank you, thank you, thank you, because without you, I never would have done it, and I would never feel so confident and secure. This started as a gift for my fiance, but now is all about what the experience gave to ME, and only a little about what I’m giving to him.

  7. I just did this a few weeks ago and couldn’t agree more! I would encourage anyone to do this, because you just feel amazing about yourself. Like many women, I have body issues. But the ladies I worked with made me feel like a beautiful sexy woman. They did some light air brushing to smooth things out, I received the final shots yesterday and I can NOT wait to give them to my FH the night before our wedding. Nothing trashy about them at all either! So I agree, if you can swing it, it would make a great wedding gift for the both of you 🙂

  8. One of my favorite bridal photos is a very old, black and white photo of a very beautiful woman wearing her veil….and only her veil. I just found it breathtaking, rather than looking “trashy” or anything like that, she looked like some ethereal being, stepping down from a cloud of light. The veil just lit her up and trailed behind her in pools of fabric.

    I want to do something like this, if I can find a photographer comfortable with nudity.

  9. I recently asked my MOH (a hobby photographer) to snap a couple pics of me in my wedding lengerie (I’m ordering some fun surprises for my FH). She will have to do this the week of the wedding while FH is gone doing something else. I feel most comfortable having her do it and I know she’ll do me justice. We are going to have to print them right away as well so very little photoshopping will be done. I’m excited to present him with just a couple of photos. FH isn’t a super sexy romantic type but I honestly think this will surprise him greatly as I tend to be more submissive. I’m excited!!!

  10. I did something like this with my best friend taking the pictures. I still don’t know what to do with them, but where I come down on it is every person deserves a picture of themselves looking dead sexy. nudity optional 😉

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