Why you should consider boudoir photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love my body

Guest post by Ms. N
The sexy Ms. N rockin' the boudoir shoot, shared with her permission. Photo by Seattle Boudoir Photography
The sexy Ms. N rockin' the boudoir shoot, shared with her permission. Photo by Seattle Boudoir Photography

Let me preface this with two things…

  • First, I have never been the type to want to be immortalized in my unmentionables (i.e., I never thought I would want to get photographed in my undies before). It wasn't something that I had been dying to do all my life.
  • Second, I am a plus-size girl who is not altogether comfortable with her body and who consistently has some self-love issues.

That being said, let me tell you why you (yes, YOU) should consider boudoir photography…

This past Saturday I had a boudoir shoot with Seattle Boudoir Photography and it was honestly the most liberating experience of my life. I was nervous and apprehensive going into it.

I've never been completely comfortable with my body, and even less so now that I am in my 30s and have stretch marks and scars and even some lovely VEINS that mark who I am and where I've been throughout the past 32 years.

I kept having the thought in my head that these people who would see me half-naked would be completely grossed out and would be disappointed that they could not make me look decent in any photos.

Boy, was I wrong.

I got to spend 2 hours with amazing people who, very honestly and sincerely, thought that I looked beautiful, and did everything they could to make sure that I knew it. And not only KNEW it, but FELT it, too. Nobody ever once looked at me and said, “Oh, I sure wish you were thinner,” or “Wow, those stretch marks really take away from this photo.”

What I heard instead was, “Oh, you have killer boobs!” and “You look so hot in that pose, for real!” I could NOT believe my ears. And really, that was all it took for me to suddenly realize this:

I'm freakin' HOT!

It doesn't matter about size or scars or weight or anything. What matters is how you FEEL. And I have never been more amazed at how comfortable I could be with myself.

So. If you can swing it, you should totally consider boudoir photography because:

  1. You get to be comfortable in your own body, even if you were already.
  2. Lots of people complimenting you and telling you how hot you look!
  3. Did I mention the wonders it does for your self-esteem?
  4. It's an excuse to buy really cute lingerie.
  5. Again — what better way to encourage self-love?

Oh and if you're wondering, “But what will I actually DO with the boudoir photos?,” Offbeat Home & Life has the answer to that.

 

Comments on Why you should consider boudoir photos. Or, how I learned to stop worrying and love my body

  1. This may be a strange question but what precisely is the point behind these photo shoots? I understand the benefits of positive body image but what do you do with the photos after they are taken?

    • For many, it’s a wedding, engagement, or just for the heck of it present for one’s significant other, either to provide visual stimulation or just to say “lookit here! Lookit what you get! Meeee, unencumbered by doubt, body images issues, and, y’know, clothes! Just for you!” For others, it’s just a gift of self-love and confidence to themselves.

  2. I’m always taking self-photos in the boudoir style for my boyfriend, and he just can’t get enough of them. I would LOVE to be able to have at least one FANTASTIC shot of myself, and then have it so he can hang it in our bedroom, or at least have it for his own keeping. My problem is, I don’t know where to get my shots printed!

    Taking these style of photos really does give you a boost of confidence. 🙂

    Oh, and to the author, even without the boudoir article, you had me at eloping and spending as little as possible. Love the whole idea!!

  3. I would just like to add that pinup or “classy” boudoir photos are not necessarily inherently better than simpler or trashier ones.

    I love the pinup deal, but if the main point would be a present for my FH, his reaction to victory rolls would probably be “…”

    If I do them, they won’t be outright porn but I don’t see myself worrying about my pictures meant for my and my FH’s eyes being “classy”. They will end up looking however I want them to and think my FH would like them to look. Probably involving water and outdoor nudity. Or something.

    My point is, along with many things talked about on OBB, if it’s something you want to do, go for it. Stop worrying about whether other people will think it’s tacky or classy.

    That said, I love this post and the accompanying photo. It’s great! Love the mirror thing, and of course the model.

  4. I second this post! Although I am not a plus size girl, I am not free from some body issues. I have posed for figure drawing in the past and had a boudoir shoot done, and both left me with a very positive self-image. It’s one thing to have a stock image of yourself and your body’s “problems” in your head, but it’s quite another to see how you really look via photograph or drawing. It’s a really enlightening and fun experience and I highly recommend it. Finding a photographer who fit my aesthetic took some shopping around, but I found a fantastic husband and wife team in Atlanta.

  5. I had a lot of the same issues as being plus size… especially when the rest of the girls there were defiantely not the same size as me. But I sucked it up and went for it. And I would do it again in a heart beat.

  6. I also recommend that if you aren’t comfortable with a stranger taking these kinds of photos, you can always surprise your partner by transforming your bedroom for a night, putting on something sexy, and letting him/her play photographer! A few yards of fabric and some candles work wonders! And you can always borrow the camera if you don’t have a great one!

  7. I love this! We are doing a pin up photo shoot for my Hens next week and i can’t wait!!!

  8. love it love it love it!! I have read a lot of indie blogs that show contempt for b-pics, and I am over girls at Project Wedding constantly posting their “lookat how skinny I am!” photos (when, um, aren’t these photos supposed to be for your husband, anyway?), but I really want to do these for my future husband. He has several photos of me in short dresses from random events, and sometimes I really have a hard time seeing what he finds so attractive in my fat thighs, but only recently I have come to terms with the fact that regardless of the things I don’t like about myself, he really loves the whole thing. In a way, I sort of see these photos as a celebration of what your partner loves about you.

    Thanks!

  9. Thank you for this post! That sounds like an amazing experience! Now I’m wondering if I can find someone in the Milwaukee area that is as awesome with compliments & empowerment as your photographer was!

    • Stumbled on this a little late, but if you are up for a little drive from Milwaukee, peoplepaperprints in Appleton is amazing.

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