WTF is an STD: Offbeat Bride's glossary to wedding acronyms and phrases #WTF!?#wedding industry Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Jan 5 2015) Megan Finley Horowitz meggyfin Wedding invitation from Minted. If you're new to wedding planning, there may be some terms you don't know. Or are you wondering why your engaged friend keeps talking about their STDs? Here's a list of phrases that get mentioned a lot in the wedding industry. You will notice that there are a lot of wedding acronyms, but please note that we feel strongly that acronyms suck. We avoid the use of wedding acronyms on Offbeat Bride because we think they create a wall of abbreviated language that shuts people out. But it's not just the wedding acronyms that can be confusing — the wedding planning lexicon is a strange beast. For example, what's the difference between Escort Cards and Place Cards? You're about to find out… A AFAIK – As Far As I Know Aisle Runner – Something that runs the length of the aisle, typically cloth. A-Line – A dress shape with a fitted bodice and slight flare starting around the waist Appliqué: French word meaning "applied," in fashion it involves decorating the surface of a fabric by applying pieces of cut fabric on top of it. B BF – Best friend/Boyfriend BFF – Best friend forever BM – either Best man, or Bridesmaid, or bowel movement (see? this is why we hate acronyms!) BIL – Brother in law Birdcage veil: Skims the face and head, never falling below the chin. Black Tie – A formal dress code that calls for tuxedos and evening gowns Black Tie Optional – Tuxedos and formalwear are suggested, but not required Boutonnière – a small grouping of something-or-other attached to the left lapel of a jacket. Blusher: A short veil that covers the bride's face, aka. "shoulder length veil" Bomboniere – The Italian word for wedding favors BP – Bridal party Bridal Portraits – Professional photos of the bride Bridezilla – Irrational demanding bride Bridethulhu – it's the new Bridezilla Browncoat – Fans of TV show Firefly and it's movie Serenity. AKA geeks. BTB/B2B – Bride To Be BTW – By the way Buffet – An informal way of serving food (or candy) at wedding receptions where dishes are set out and guests serve themselves. Bustle – Attaching the train of a dress to the back to keep it up. BWW – Big White Wedding, a traditional and formal Western wedding. C Card Stock – Paper that is thicker than writing paper but thinner and more flexible than other forms of paperboard. Cash Bar – A bar where guests have to pay for drinks. Cathedral Train – A dress train typically over seven feet long Cathedral Veil – A dramatic veil length that extends to the floor CF – Child free Charger – A larger more decorative plate that rests under the dinner plate Chiffon – A lightweight, sheer fabric Chuppah – A traditional canopy held over the couple in Jewish weddings. Cocktail Attire – A dress code that is less formal and calls for suits and cocktail dresses Cons – Short for Conventions, usually used in reference to Comic Conventions Cosplay – Short for Costume Play, can refer to period dress or theme dress as in paying homage to favorite movie/television/game/comic characters Crinoline – A petticoat, or the fabric it's made from. Crudités – Raw vegetable appetizers served with dip Related Post Wedding-related spam: how much does it suck? Guess what just came to my spam inbox! According to The Knot, I'm 13 months away from my "dream day." Lordy. You go to David's... Read more D Dais – A raised platform where the bride and groom sit at a reception Damask – An ornate flowery pattern, typically comes in black and white DD – Dear daughter Day of Coordinator – The person organising all the other wedding staff. DF – Dear Fiancé or Dear Father DH – Dear Husband Die Cut – A technique used to create "windows" in invitations DIL – Daughter in law DIY – Do It Yourself DM – Dear Mother DOC – Day-of Coordinator DS – Dear Son E E-ring – Engagement Ring Elopement – Running away to get married, or getting married without telling anyone Engraved invites – similar to embossing, it gives the writing a texture Escort Cards – Cards that direct guests to their assigned tables F Fascinator – Feathers, ribbons, beads etc. as a headdress but not a hat or veil. Family Style – A dinner where guests help themselves as they would at a dinner table FBIL – Future Brother in Law FIL – Father in Law FFIL – Future Father in Law FH – Future Husband FI – Fiancé/Fiancée Fiancé/Fiancée – A French word meaning "this is the person I'm gonna marry." Fiancé is the masculine and fiancée the feminine. Filler – Inexpensive flowers and foliage (think baby's breath) used to fill out floral arrangements FMIL – Future Mother in Law FOB – Father of (the) Bride FOG – Father of (the) Groom Fondant – A very smooth and maleable icing that dries hard. FSIL – Future Sister in Law FTB – Father to Be FTW – either For The Win (yay) or Fuck The World (boo) FW – Future Wife G Gamer – people who are heavily involved in the world of video gaming Ganache – thin icing or sauce composed of chocolate and heavy cream. Garter – narrow bands of fabric fastened about the leg Getting weddinged – planning a wedding after you're already legally married. Genderqueer – gender identities other than "man" and "woman" GF – Girlfriend GFIL – Grandfather in Law Groom's Cake – An excuse for a second cake, that's often way cooler than the wedding cake. GM – Grooms Man GMIL – Grandmother in Law Guestbook – something available for your guests to acknowledge that they were there H Handfasting – a Pagan wedding ceremony where the couples hands are tied together. Henna – In some Muslim and Hindu weddings it's traditional to have a paste made from dried henna leaves to paint intricate patterns on hands (and sometimes also feet) of the bridal party HTB/H2B – Husband To Be I IL – In-laws Inspiration Board – A collection of photos providing ideas and inspiration. IRL – In Real Life J JOP – Justice of (the) Peace, a type of officiant K Ketubah – The contract Jewish couples sign that states the obligations of the marriage. L Letterpress – A vintage-style printing technique giving words a grooved texture. LGBT: Collectively refers to "lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender" people. M Mantilla Veil – A Spanish-style veil with a wide lace border Marzipan – An almond-flavored paste. Mercury Glass – The term for silvered glass Mermaid Dress – A dress silhouette that is fitted through the body and hips and flares out below the knees MIL – Mother in Law MOB – Mother of (the) Bride MOG – Mother of (the) Groom MOH – Maid/Matron of Honour Momthulhu – an overbearing mother MTB – Mother to Be N NSFW – Not Safe For Work NWR – Not Wedding Related O OBB/OB – Offbeat Bride OBG – Offbeat Groom Offbeat Bride Tribe – The private community for Offbeat Brides planning their weddings Officiant – the person conducting the wedding ceremony. OH – Other Half One lowsmanship – getting competitive about how little you're spending OP – Original Post/er Open Bar – A bar where the drinks are free to guests. P Pew Bow – Decorations on the end of rows of seating at the ceremony. Place Cards – used to designate a guests seat at the table Pomander – A round ball covered in flowers and often with an attached ribbon. Porn – Exciting photos of wedding related stuff. Pro-Porn – Professional photos of exciting wedding stuff. Processional – The bridal party's entrance to the ceremony Q Queer – an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities that are not heterosexual, or cisgender. R Recs – Recommendations Receiving Line – The couple greets each guest in turn as they enter the reception. Reception cards – include both escort cards and/or place cards Recessional – When the wedding party exits at the conclusion of the wedding ceremony. Ren Faire – Short for "Renaissance Fair," where people dress and act like they're in the Renaissance time period. Reply Card or RSVP ("Répondez s'il vous plaît" — French for "please respond") – a card included with the invitations that your guest send back informing you if they're coming or not. RL – Real Life S Save The Date (STD) – A "pre-invite" sent out ASAP to tell guests when the wedding will be. Sheet Cake – A large flat cake instead of a tiered wedding cake SIL – Sister in Law SO – Significant Other SOL – Shit Out (of) Luck SS – Same Sex Stationery Suite – Describes all of the wedding stationery: save-the-dates, invitations, reply, reception cards, etc. Steampunk – Sci-fi meets Neo-Victorian fashion Swagging – Fabric that is gathered and draped into soft arcs Sweetheart Table – A two-person table just for the newlyweds SWR – Something Wedding Related T Table Cakes – A cake that is used as a centerpieces and the dessert Tablecards – The sign or name on each table so guests can find their place Taffeta – Crisp fabric often made from synthetic fibers Tea Light – A small candle in a thin metal cup TBD – To be determined TLAs – Three Letter Acronyms TL;DR – Too Long; Didn't Read Topiary – Flowers or plants trimmed into geometric shapes. Toss bouquet/garter – a second version to toss into the crowd so you can keep yours. Train – the bit at the back of a dress that drags on the floor. Tulle – A fine netted fabric used for veils, gowns, or tutus U Unity Candle – At the beginning of the ceremony, a representative from each family light the two taper candles. Later the couple use those tapers to light the unity candle in the middle together. Unity Ceremony – Something done by the couple during the ceremony to symbolize their joining together as one Unity Cocktail – a beverage mixed during the ceremony that couple drinks together Ushers – People selected to seat guests as they enter the ceremony V Venue – The place the wedding/reception will happen W Wedding Party – The people helping plan/involved in the wedding, often with specific expectations and/or roles (maid-of-honor, bridesmaids, best man, groomsmen, etc) Wedding Industrial Complex (WIC) – The commercialized, mainstream component of the wedding industry WOW – World Of Warcraft WP – Wedding Party WTF – What the Fuck Y Yichud – The period immediately following the wedding ceremony when a Jewish couple spends time alone together. YMMV – Your Mileage May Vary Whew! See why we discourage using acronyms and wedding jargon? It's so confusing! That said, did we forget any terms that have been confusing you? Ask in the comments. Megan Finley Horowitz When Megan's not writing, traveling, and sleeping, she's eating like the fate of the world depends on it. (You're welcome, world!) You can snoop into her personal life over on her website The Dash and Dine! @meggyfin @thedashanddine @meggyfin PREVIOUS Alise & Adam's intimate San Francisco surprise elopement NEXT Mel & Tevis' crafty vegan space wedding Show/Hide comments [ 16 ] Love this. By the way (BTW), B2B could also be "business to business" – as in, a business that sells its products or services directly to other businesses, rather than to consumers (B2C). A florist who sells to anyone who wants to buy some flowers would be a B2C company, but a wholesaler who only sells to florists would typically be considered B2B. I've never seen B2B used as "bride-to-be," so it's interesting to discover some new terms! I've also seen the Offbeat Bride Tribe as "OBT," which you haven't explicitly called out. (And you've got Momthulhu twice here.) Reply In the gaming community these days (especially esports and online play) BM can also mean "Bad Manners" as either a state of being or a verb. Definitely what I thought of first, because acronyms are dumb. ;P Reply I have to admit I was confused by the acronym DH for the longest time because I thought it was 'damn husband' but when I saw people referring to their 'Damn Daughter' & 'Damn Son' I figured I was wrong & checked with the internet. I will say this website has made me look like less of a dork on the internet a number of times. http://www.acronymfinder.com/ Reply This is not only super helpful but also quite entertaining. I might have laughed out loud (lol) a few too many times. Reply Just want to inform American readers, here in England "STD" is a standard term for a sexually transmitted disease, as in "STD Clinic", could cause puzzlement as to why B2B's are quite so excited about their STD's! Great article though! Reply It is also sexually transmitted disease in the States! It is just as confusing for us. 😛 Reply Oh, we know, it means the same thing here in America. 😉 Reply Wow really? I assumed it was one of those "two nations divided by a common language" things. Huh that makes it even stranger that people use it! I guess that's a wedding industry quirk then, sorry I doubted you America! Reply As well as STDs, they're also sometimes called STIs (sexually transmitted infection) in Australia Reply funny you mentioned "bomboniere"… I've never seen it used anywhere (except in Italy, of course) I'll add a fun fact (that I'm probably repeating for the tenth time, bear with me). Bomboniere are traditionally (and usually) accompanied by 5 sugared/Jordan almonds, that in Italy are a fine, high quality, absolutely delicious product and not the yucky thing you seem to have across the pond. They are called confetti in Italian, it means sugared. They used to be thrown at people for good luck. I find it funny that in English the term remained for the thing you're throwing, even when they decided to throw something less expensive 🙂 Reply Can I also give a shout out to the word Queer? It's been used a few times on here and isn't an especially wedding-y word, but I think is good for a "wedding labels 101" listing. Reply Good call! I added queer and a couple more self-identification words. Reply One I haven't been able to figure out is BAM. Ladies post pictures after their wedding on the forums and label them BAM. Reply Well, I'm not allowed in the forums being a vendor and all (and I SERIOUSLY respect OBB for having that standard), so I can't say for sure… BUT, I do have friends who will do similar things on Facebook or whatever, and it's generally a written sound effect (if that makes sense) expressing happiness or excitement. Like, BAM – there it is, look what I did! (Same idea as "boom" or "booya") Urban Dictionary agrees with me (I checked)… unless you're from Scotland, and then it means Below Average Mentality. lmao! Reply BM is also breastmilk. 😛 Reply WTF? White Tie Formal, of course. Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.