5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media (in GIFs) #Friends & Family Advice#engagement#etiquette#proposing#social media November 25 2016 | Catherine Clark bijouxandbits Related Post Would you wear a used engagement ring? Here are some reasons to go secondhand There are usually three types of reasons one might sell a used engagement ring: a divorce, lack of use/wear, or to pay for a ring... Read more It's the start of the holiday season. You're full of tryptophan and ready for a nap. OR you're totally celebrating your freshly diamond-ed finger because your spouse (or you!) has just proposed. It's the holidays, love is in the air. It's engagement season, y'all. If this is you, CONGRATS! We're so happy for you! And we want all your friends and family to be happy, too. So here are five ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media so you don't wreck all the fun with your wild antics and get everyone all: Before it's official You definitely don't want any premature engagement-ulation. I don't know what that is either, but wait until it's official. If you think it'll happen, it might happen, you're just drafting a post in case it happens… don't hit submit just yet. Without letting your partner know Hey, it's official! This means you can totally post and celebrate. Just make sure to give your partner a heads up before the notifications start rolling in. This is especially true if you haven't notified your main crew of friends and family who will want to know before the general Facebook public. During someone else's hard time If someone else just had a big break up, a job loss, an election loss (just kidding, totally announce it — we all need it!), wait a little while to announce. You don't want to give off any "I don't care, bishes, admire me" vibes. With a (super) gratuitous ring shot Gratuitous is the key word here. A ring shot with both of you smiling? Awesome. A hug with the ring shown behind your partner? Cute. A big ol' close-up of your 3-carat cushion cut surrounded by glitter and mink? Sure, but don't forget to include your partner! 😉 RIGHT after someone else It IS engagement season after all, so you may not be the only couple basking in post-proposal joy. If you do see a rogue announcement slip out right when you wanted to post your announcement, give it a few days. Give them a bit thumbs up, too, so they know you're rooting for them. Then share with them this link since they'll need it, too! DO announce it if you want to None of these tips mean you shouldn't announce on social media if you want to. It's how a lot of us share our life updates. Be sneaky with a surprise, toss in an animated gif, throw in a photo of you and your cat celebrating (oh wait, that's me), and post away! Then tell us how it all went down. 16 wonderful and weird wedding proposals (that totally worked!) If there's one thing we love, it's a good proposal story. Now, we really love an intimate, meaningful, and sweet proposal, but sometimes you just want to hear a neat… Read More Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Catherine Clark Catherine Clark is Offbeat Bride's Executive Editor. In her spare time she loiters at her local library, makes art, watches movies en masse, plays video and tabletop games, poorly cooks healthy things, cuddles with her feline fur baby, and blogs at BijouxandBits.com. @enidjcoleslaw @bijouxandbits @bijouxandbits PREVIOUS An Italian New York wedding with a Central Park ceremony NEXT Black Friday wedding deals make your wedding awesome & save your budget Show/Hide comments [ 7 ] Also, don't announce it for a friend. Someone filmed our engagement, uploaded it to Facebook, and tagged us as it happened. My friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, former teachers, (you get the point) knew as soon as I did. It all turned out fine and honestly I'm glad to have the moment recorded video. But we didn't get to tell anyone ourselves or control how the news got out. Reply I fully support close-ups with glitter and mink, but the rest of this list is on point! Consent and consideration are key. Reply You're totally right. Close-ups and fancy should totally be good to go. 🙂 Reply I fully support a close-up of that bling – more glitter and mink? Ok. You do you. However, MULTIPLE photos of that bling? No. I don't need to go through 10 photos of various angles of your ring. Reply Agreed! Reply Don't feel like you can't celebrate or share news because so and so is going through a breakup/hard time. You're allowed to feel happy and to celebrate it! However don't go to that person to complain about anything engagement or wedding related, THAT'S not cool. I'm struggling with infertility right now, and pregnancy announcements sting, sometimes bring me to tears, but I'm honestly happy for the person. UNTIL they complain endlessly about the discomforts of pregnancy (girl in mind is NOT having a rough pregnancy, she was complaining about the things she's temporarily not allowed to eat, NOT something to complain to a person struggling with fertility.) Also texting this kind of news is great if you know someone is struggling, gives the person times to process the news, maybe ugly cry in private. Reply I honestly wish that we had waited to announce our engagement on Facebook. We called our mothers right after it happened, took a picture, and posted away. It was really awesome to see the wave of congratulations and good lucks and best wishes and all that but I sometimes feel like we shared way too soon. If I had to do it over again I think I would've waited until we'd told all our close family/friends either in person, via phone, or even by text before posting it for the whole FB universe. But, hindsight is 20/20! Reply Leave a Reply to Catherine Clark Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! 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