The Offbeat Bride: Amy, artist
Her offbeat partner: Jake, chemist
Date and location of wedding: Cold Spring Tavern, Santa Barbara, CA — May 6, 2016
Our offbeat wedding at a glance:
We didn't have a rigid theme or color palette throughout our planning process but allowed ourselves to be inspired by our gorgeous venue, which was established in 1865 as a stage coach stop. We love living by the beach in Santa Barbara, but we both grew up in wooded/mountainous areas and that was the kind of scenery we wanted for our wedding. We're pretty casual people and aimed for a beautiful yet unpretentious event with great food and music. Cold Spring Tavern provided the perfect atmosphere for our day.
Tell us about the ceremony:
Our friend Lucy played a beautiful rendition of “God Only Knows” on piano for the processional. We opted not to have a wedding party and instead had our immediate families make a special entrance. Then Jake and I escorted each other to the altar, upon which hung a gorgeous floral garland designed by Jake's aunt (who also did my lovely bouquet).
Our friend Shaheen officiated the ceremony, which included details about how Jake and I met in college and that our wedding was our eight-year anniversary together. Jake's dad read a Jewish blessing, and we ended the ceremony with the Jewish tradition of breaking the glass. The recessional song was “Once in Love With Amy,” which my grandpa used to sing to me when I was little.
Tell us about your reception:
I'll never forget how Jake and I returned to cocktail hour after stepping out to take couple portraits and were absolutely mobbed by our amazing wonderful guests with endless hugs and snapshots. We had long, banquet-style tables so everyone could be close together during dinner, and the tables were topped with more floral garlands and old fashioned kerosene lanterns which Jake and I had DIYed to look weathered with a copper chloride solution (chemist husband FTW!).
It started to rain during dinner and our guests handled it SPECTACULARLY. There was nonstop laughter as everyone suited up in big black trash bags to cover their clothes. I never thought I'd appreciate rain on my wedding day but it ended up adding such a fun element. The hilarious and heartfelt speeches that our siblings and best friends gave were a highlight of the evening (one speech touched on the fact that we found a LIVE POSSUM in our bedroom the night/early morning before the wedding — yes, you read that correctly — which a Google search revealed to be a good wedding day omen!).
We had an awesome vintage-inspired paper moon photo booth that we got on Etsy for our guests to take pictures with between dances. From cocktail hour to dinner to dancing, our music was curated by us using Spotify. We're both music freaks and spent hours putting the playlists together, which ranged from The Beatles to Django Reinhardt to Leon Bridges.
What was your most important lesson learned?
I personally had a hard time delegating. As an artist, I can be particularly control freak-ish about aesthetic stuff. I have to say, letting go on that a little bit and accepting some help paid off in spades. One of my favorite memories of my wedding day is seeing all of Jake's family working together the morning of to assemble the long floral garlands used throughout our venue. The garlands were stunning, but more importantly, I felt so humbled by the show of love and support. It was also critical that we assigned day-of tasks to family and friends to help everything flow. We couldn't have done it without them!
- Photographer: Alyssa Armstrong
- Dress: ASOS
- Faux fur stole: Rosa Bridal
- Groom's jacket: Saks Fifth Avenue
- Groom's pants: Topman
- Venue: Cold Spring Tavern
- Guest transportation: Jump On The School Bus
- Paper moon photo booth: DAPPSY
- Florals: Kathy Moen of Espanola, NM
- Invitations: Bride