Unity cocktail #Wedding Inspo#Wedding trends#ceremony#steal-this-idea#unity candle#unity ceremony#unity cocktail Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Jan 19 2008) Ariel findyourafterglow Adrianna and Christian got married recently, and I was scrolling through the pictures. First I noticed the groom's cake (er, cupcakes?), but then I was really struck by their new tradition: the wedding cocktail. As described in the caption: Like a unity candle… only awesomer. To see more examples of couples who have put this refreshing unity ceremony into action, check out our unity cocktail tag! Ariel Author of three editions of the Offbeat Bride book and From Shitshow To Afterglow, Ariel Meadow Stallings acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives in Seattle with her son, and if she's not writing or scrolling, chances are good that she's dancing or happy-crying. To follow her latest work, join join The Afterglow, for exclusive access to essays, videos, online courses, and more. PREVIOUS Handspun yarn from a wedding dress NEXT Crystal's pom-poms and stick centerpieces Show/Hide comments [ 10 ] That is sooooo freaking cool. I'm wondering if I should mention this to Tom or not. I know the second I tell him about it, he'll be like "We are SOOOO doing that!" Reply yep, I told Tom and he's like "We are SOOOO doing that!" I knew it! Ha ha. Reply ha ha, wow. my pics of c&a got wedding-porn-plugged! gracias! the groom's mario cake? cake (maybe brownie? it's been a while) pieces cut into "pixels" with corresponding frosting. the unity cocktail? a manhattan, i think! it was a tribute to adri's grandfather, who definitely yelled "MORE VERMOUTH!" from the audience. the awesome touches from their badass wedding is definitely assisting chris and myself in planning our hopefully-badass wedding. hell, they took off in a getaway scooter! a scooter, i tell you! scooter!!! Reply How does this work exactly – the bar tender creates it in front of them? Reply http://www.alcademics.com/2008/01/new-tradition-unity-cocktail.html Reply FH and I came up with something like this when we were trying to figure out what our symbolic thing in our ceremony would be. I had actually forgotten all about it until I read this. (Thanks for the reminder!!!) We wanted to put two things together that were both good on their own, and make them into something different and good, which can't be separated – at least not easily. (A Brandy Alexander might be a good one.) Alternatively, you could take two things that are only OK on their own and become something better. A Manhattan is more like that (vermouth on its own… not so good!). So it depends what symbolism you're going for. First I suggested some sort of chemical reaction (mix two liquids and get a solid?), but FH vetoed it as too geeky. It might work for a chemist couple, though! Then we thought about mixing a margarita or something, but never got too much further. If we do it, we would have the bride pour in one ingredient and the groom pour in another, and then shake it together. Or maybe there would be some ingredients we do alone and some we pour in together. (I kind of like that). Then we would shake/mix it together, while the officiant says something about the symbolism. Then pour it into a glass and each take a sip. Reply I was thinking about this and put together a sample of how we might do it. It needs a little more work and I haven't run it by FH yet, but here goes: The theme of this ceremony is that these two strong and successful individuals, have decided that they are better off together than on their own and as family and friends, our support of their relationship will complete their marriage. A and S will now mix a cocktail to symbolize the merging of their lives. S's part in this relationship will be represented by Brandy, a strong drink made from distilled grapes and aged to perfection. S – please pour the brandy into the shaker. A's part in this relationship will be represented by Creme de Cacao, a sweet and fun, but surprisingly powerful chocolate liqueur. A – please pour the creme de cacao into the shaker Our part in the relationship – the richness that friends and family add to their relationship – will be represented by cream. I will represent all of us by pouring the cream into the shaker. A and S, please shake the cocktail and strain it into the martini glass. A&S both hold the shaker and shake it. Then S removes the top and together they strain it into a martini glass and hold it up in front of them. By mixing strong brandy, sweet chocolate liqueur, and rich cream together, A and S have created a strong and delicious drink – the Brandy Alexander, a drink supposedly created at a royal wedding in 1922. This drink can never be separated into its original ingredients, just as A and S can never go back to who they were before they made this commitment to marry each other before all of us. A and S – please take a sip of the beverage you have created, and tell us how it tastes. A & S say something about it ("wonderful/delicious/…") Reply That cupcake tree is unbelievable! Well done! Reply […] those of you who love the unity cocktail idea, you must check out these Juliette Garter Flask […] Reply OMG!!! I asked my Maid of Honor to create a cocktail for our reception … and now I think I need to have her pour it at the ceremony! RAWK! Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! 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