Why you’re not supposed to like everything you see on Offbeat Bride

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I'm sorry, but some of the stuff on Offbeat Bride is just too weird.

Some of the wedding shoes? Ugly. Some of the real offbeat weddings? Kinda tacky.

I love Offbeat Bride, but sometimes I just don't get you guys.

-Anonymous.

Thanks for bringing this up, Anonymous.

You know what?

You're totally right.

I don't like everything we feature on Offbeat Bride either — and that's by design.

This website isn't about dictating one vision of taste or aesthetics upon my readers. Sure, we feature wedding trends when we start to notice Offbeat Brides getting obsessed with a particular vision. But part of why I continue to run Offbeat Bride is because it's an excuse to get exposed to a whole big wide range of cultures and styles and people and design outside my daily experience.

If everything on Offbeat Bride was just a reflection of my personal tastes, we'd never see any rockabillies or goths or steampunks or church weddings.

Offbeat Bride would be all West Coast neo-tribal forest weddings like these ones. (Love 'em — but yawn!)

[related-post align=”right”]If Offbeat Bride was all about Megan's personal preferences, it'd be all beach weddings, Star Wars couples, and gamer geeks.

I say, bring on the “too weird”!

Bring on the ugly-to-some-people!

Bring on the kinda-tacky-to-some-people!

Because our tastes are all different, and when some bride halfway across the globe dares to share her vision with the world and I get exposed to something new and beautiful and amazing and magical … we all win.

Comments on Why you’re not supposed to like everything you see on Offbeat Bride

  1. Damn skippy! That's what I try and tell people about offbeat-ness. It can be ANYTHING. It's really about showing your personality and doing what you like. Who cares what others think? Keep on rocking Ariel!

  2. personally, i've never seen a wedding on obb that i don't like. why? because every bride says, "it's just what i wanted." and that's exactly what a wedding should be. it may not be my personal taste, it may not make me say, "OMG! i want that for my OWN wedding." but if it's what the couple wanted, dreamed of, and were ultimately H-A-P-P-Y with, then i love it. i love it for the personal touches and love that went into dreaming it up. i love every obb wedding featured on this site because, while you do see certain trends (trends that i often love, too), none of them are cookie cutter weddings.

  3. Katie you are singing my song – I've actually never seen a wedding on this site that I didn't love. They all make me happy. I have my own issues though – people like "anonymous" are head scratchers to me – but I dig that the world is so varied that there are people who manage to present in ways that even I can't 'get'.

  4. Wow, what a generous, good-natured, and optimistic response to a mean-spirited, pointless, and obnoxious email. Who died and made "Anonymous" the Royal Arbiter of Taste? This is why Ariel is my hero — she can take something like that email and make it a "teaching moment" for diversity of tastes and inclusion. I'm with the commenters above. I love all the weddings here, because they show people at their best — personal, different, and totally happy and in love. You get beauty from the smiles on the blissful, fun-loving couples here that can't always be found in so-called "perfection."

    • This is an important teaching moment – so glad we have Ariel to post this! Ariel's post also makes me think about the OBT's policy of being supportive, which I think some people have criticized as being "wrong" because it means we can only say that we like each other's wedding things and ideas. I don't think that's what being supportive is at all – you can not like someone's wedding thing for yourself but still be supportive that they have found what they like for them! You can even offer constructive criticism and still be supportive! You just can't be a jerk and unhelpful and say someone's stuff is "tacky" or "ugly," because that is both un-supportive and useless!

  5. Totally agreed, I don't share everyone's personal tastes, but what I do appreciate is that they're getting the wedding of their dreams and a wonderful beginning to a new life with their partner. That's what makes me smile when I see new wedding photos. And that's why I come back, even though I already have my own wedding vision worked out.

  6. Katie is sooo right. I don't think I've ever seen a wedding on OB that didn't feature a radiantly happy couple, and that's what makes a kick-ass wedding.

  7. I've got to tell you, Ariel – you handled that so much more tactfully than I would have (for me, it would have turned into a rant about breaking traditions, and society dictating what's "normal" that would have only come off as pretentious by the end). I am so impressed. Seriously, this website keeps me so grounded, whenever I get wound up by people who tell me what's "acceptable" and what's "not." I can't wait until my woobie pops the question so I can become a member 🙂

  8. without OBB i would have never gotten to know about steam punk or see how rockabilly can be done in so many ways. with all the weddings posted, there are things that i would like to have and some things i don’t want to have.

    and i know when my wedding gets posted there will be many people thinking the same thing.

    when i found this site, i found salvation! all i had found in the world of “non-tradition” wedding was a white dress with a colored sash. THIS is the place to see how many million ways one can turn a wedding out!

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