Joanne & Brian's gothic and glamorous castle wedding #Real Weddings: Global#castle#catholic#civil ceremony#goth#interfaith#owl#pagan#prison#red dress#red wedding veils#shrug#sword#tattooed bride#uk Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Aug 30 2010) Offbeat Editors Last Monday, I showed you a couple who had an owl as a ring bearer. That was just a mini preview of Joanne & Brian's amazing gothic wedding. They blew the budget and totally did it up, with a fantastic gothic reception including disco in the dungeon! -Coco The offbeat bride: Joanne (Prison Education Manager) Her offbeat partner: Brian Lawrence (Electrician) Location & date of wedding: Lumley Castle, Durham, England — July 16, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: I had been a way out goth throughout the late eighties to mid nineties. I haven't quite grown out of it, even at the age of thirty-seven! I had been with my previous partner for seventeen years, and hell would have frozen over at the mention of the word marriage! Following our seperation, I became closer to Brian, whom I'd known for four years. Not long into the relationship he asked me to marry him. Without a second of hesitation I said yes. Now most of my friends and family knew to expect the unexpected. I have never been one for following the norm. After a horrendous seventeen years with my ex, this was to be my gothic fairy-tale ending. I was going to blow the budget, and do it in gothic style! Firstly, the dress HAD to be red. It could have been black, but as I generally wear black every day of my life, I thought I'd change it up. I then chose black for my maids. We had personalized readings, alternative readings, a fantastic gothic reception, a disco in the dungeon, and to top it all, our wedding rings delivered to the best man by an owl flying down the aisle! Tell us about the ceremony: Our registar made the service incredibly personal; she was very funny! My husband is Catholic, and I am pagan, so we opted for a personalized civil ceremony. We made our vows and personal promises individual. We had three readings, one traditional, which was "Friendship," one was a Navajo wedding reading, which tied in with my pagan roots, and the final one, "Two Twinkling Stars," was read by my nine year old daughter. Two Twinkling Stars: Two stars in the heavens, Twinkling so bright, bewildered by each others light. Their feelings grow, their love comes strong. They shine together, forever long. When one fades, the other cries, When that one sobs, the other dies. It was made to last, it will, it must. They'll stay together, with faith and trust. Two bright stars in a lonely sky, Together forever. Our biggest challenge: I hate to say it, but there weren't any. And that is mainly due to having a super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor. So maybe the biggest challenge shoud have been, my dizzy headed, laid back attitude which was in danger of leaving everything 'til the last minute. However, it was overcome by appointing the perfect chief! My favorite moment: Marrying my husband, becoming Mrs. Lawrence was by far the most special part of the day. Our registrar was fantastic, funny and quite offbeat herself. She made the service humorous and personal to us, without taking away the seriousness of marriage. Seeing my husband waiting for me at the end of the aisle was very emotional. My Dad gave me away, and was in tears from the moment he saw me! My nine year old daughter did a reading which was very touching. My six year old son caught the owl that delivered the wedding rings. I sadly lost my mum the year before, so we tried hard to include her in the day. We attached silver prayer charms filled with her ashes to our bouquets and button holes. We also had a memorial table with a picture of her on her wedding day. We gave Ovarian cancer charity badges (red hearts) as favors. The speeches were fantastic: funny, emotional and very moving. The whole day was set to an amazing soundtrack. Music means so much to me, and I had chosen it very carefully for each part of the day. Now, when I listen to it and it instantly takes me back to our special day. My funniest moment: Seeing the puzzled looks on our guests faces when they heard some very weird noises coming from outside. Then seeing their utter astonisment as a barn owl flew down the aisle to the Harry Potter Theme Song, and delivered the wedding rings to my son. The owl sat on his arm and let him unhook the rings from his foot! I found out later that people had thought it was the groom's grandma snoring, and not a sqawking owl! Ollie stole the show, and everyone had their pictures taken with him afterward! My advice for offbeat brides: Don't listen to everyone else's opinions. When you want to do something your way, there will always be someone who say's "You can't do that." Well, you can. It's your wedding, not theirs. So what if Granny Smith nearly falls of her seat because her grandson's new bride is wearing scarlet red, she'll get over it. I bought extra material with my dress, in order to have a sleeved shrug to cover my half sleeve tattoo during the ceremony. I admit, I thought I should be discreet for that part of the day. But, I soon came to my senses and thought, I love my Phoenix and I am going to bloody well show it off! I did get a shrug made, but a fabulous burlesque style opera shrug – sleeveless! The moral is, if you really want to do something and don't, you'll regret it later on. This is YOUR big day, personalize it! What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? To not deviate from who I am. I could have quite easily been ushered into doing the traditional thing to suit what other people wanted, but I stood fast to what I believe in! Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? My headband: Liberty in Love Dress: Maggie Sottero My shrug: Custom made by Nina at Love Burlesque – she also made the rose corsages on the bridesmaid dresses. My flowers were by "Wild and Wonderful" Our fabulous owl, Ollie was hired from Talon Falconry. The prayer charms were from Essesea The heart pins were from the ovarian cancer charity "Eve" My tattoo is by Bez at Triplesix Studios! Bridesmaid dresses were by Red Herring at Debenhams, customized with a red sash and corsage by Nina at Love Burlesque . Photographer: Tom Hoad Photography Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS Posh paper flower bouquets from Robot In Bloom NEXT 6 awesomely adorable couple portraits! Show/Hide comments [ 47 ] Holy.. I don't even have words for how gorgeous this wedding is. WOW. Well done! Reply Wow! I have been considering a red dress and I didn't think I could do a red veil as well, but you just did! And it looks beautifully stunning! Reply Congratulations! I had so much joy reading your profile! I can really feel how happy you were that day. The pictures are divine. PS. Who says you have to out grow being goth? I'm not going to out grow being a farm girl. Reply That's what is misunderstood. Goth is not about the cloths, but your look on life and things around you. Goth is morbid. Hell, I'm gothic as anyone else, but I wear the whole freakin rainbow pretty much. The clothes have nothing to do with it in anyway. You can be a goth farm girl for all we know. It's about the personal look, not the style, clothes, or idea of gothism. (sorry, gothism just came to mind) No offense meant btw. Reply There is nothing about this that I do not love. Red Maggie dress? win! (I tried on the same one, it's a a jaw-dropper and you look amazing in it) Harry Potter? mega super win! Gothic castle? seriously, can I marry you too? Congrats on a gorgeous wedding and staying true to yourself! Reply The STIG!!! Some say he crashes weddings on weekends… What a grand entrance! My guests wouldn't really get the joke here in the States where it's difficult to get Top Gear episodes, but I'm so in love with the idea 🙂 Reply "some say he crashes weddings!" haha! Love it! x Reply We love the Stig! And what a fab addition to the wedding. The entire event makes me want to redo my wedding! Reply The Stig! Awesome wedding. You are so beautiful, and you and your groom look so happy! Congrats Reply Haha! I didn't know how many people would recognse 'The Stig'! He came to collect on behalf of the british half foundation (my husbands best friend died two years before our wedding from a heart attack) Reply The actual Stig came to your actual wedding? O.O SO JEALOUS. Reply I wish!!! No, it wasn't the actual stig, a friend of my husbands dressed up for a charity collection! Reply Haha. I was looking through the awesome pics, then suddenly… What on earth? Is that the stig? I didn't see a mention of that! Congratulations. What a great wedding. 🙂 Reply When I was flipping through the pics I was like "Holy crap! The stig!" I read through the whole article just for some sort of explanation. lol Reply 🙂 it was for a charity collection for my mum, and for my husbands best friend, both who sadly died two years ago. x Reply This wedding made me reflect again on last week's article about narcissicm and self-promotion in weddings. I think this wedding highlights how weddings can be self-indulgant spectacles… AND retain the solemnity that a ceremony beginning a marriage deserves. Bravo, Mr. & Mrs. Lawrence! And congratulations on your marriage! Reply Thank you! Reply Excuse me while I wipe the drool from my computer screen. That dress and the picture with your veil lifted are the most stunning thing I've ever seen. Ollie is darling! Harry Potter! Castle! I swooned. What a beautiful story of how you met! Congrats! Reply 🙂 Thank you all for your lovely comments! Reply REALLY want to see video of the owl with the rings…. !!! Reply I'll see if I can upoad it and then provide a link! x Reply Just to mention, the link for 'love Burlesque' takes you to an old site, the correct link is: http://www.loveburlesque.com/ Reply I updated the link! Reply Wow. I LOVE the dress, the owl, the castle, everything! Such a gorgeous wedding! Congrats! Reply So much gorgeousness – I have to ask – who took your (quite literally) fantastic photos? (And omg! the Stig!) Reply I had a total panic attack when I realised his link wasn't on here!!!! Tom is an old friend, and a FANTASTIC photographer, his comapany is 'Tom Hoad Photography' and this is the link – http://tif.am/UK5735C60053050/160710 Reply Wow. Just… wow. I'm speechless. Everything about this wedding is too beautiful for words. What an incredible day this must have been. Reply Loved your gown, veil and headpiece….gorgeous! Reply The Stig!!! And what a beautiful tattoo you have… Reply This wedding is so beautiful! The photos are just amazing. I love the owl idea. Amazing. AND THE STIG! And I love everyone else who already commented on The Stig! <3 Top Gear and <3 this wedding! Reply WOW – love that dress and the owl and the theme and well, EVERYTHING! And can I say that you have the most spectacular boobage of any bride I've ever seen? Reply Haha! Yes, the boobs did grab some attention that day! 🙂 Reply Holy stunning wedding, Batman! The dress! The castle! THE OWL! I absolutely love it! And what a lovely story, too. 🙂 Reply So lovely! I hope my wedding will be half as beautiful! Reply Freakin' amazing wedding and like, the most beautiful bride I have EVER seen! Got a bit of a crush now, actually! And the dress is just… perfection… Reply Aw,thank you! 🙂 Reply i gotta agree with anna here. i think im crushin too. she has a freakin OWL! how do you not just want to hug her for that. im in love with this wedding, the ring bearer and everything! Reply p.s. omg your tattoo!!! who did that?? Reply Bez at http://triplesixstudios.co.uk/ Totally agree, it's effin' gorgeous! Reply Thank you! 🙂 Reply Absolutely delighted to attend wedding briefly posing as Stig. I knew "Skelly" well too (Brian's friend who sadly died too young) I was quite emotional under that blacked out visor! haha. Guests were very generous though. Reply Yay! The stig unmasked! See how much of a hit you were?! Reply Think you have missed some things off the list:- Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? HANDEMADE WEDDING INVITATIONS:- Mrs Duke (super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor.) HANDMADE GUESTBOOK & BLACK FEATHER PEN:-Mrs Duke (super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor.) BLACK AND RED LEATHER GARTER WITH HANDCUFFS Gift from Mrs Duke (super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor.) ATHAME CAKE KNIFE:- Gift from Mrs Duke (super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor.) CAKE:- Mrs Duke (super cool, anally retentive, and mega organized Maid of Honor.) Just thought i would mention it. lol. I was so honoured and proud when you asked me to be your maid of honour and i cannot name another soul on this planet who deserved to have such a special day you deserve this level of happiness every day. love you always babe xxx Reply awww, hun! it wouldn't have been half the day it was without you! Love you loads chief! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Reply Oh my God, that dress is AMAZING! And you look amazing in it! Absolutely stunning. Reply So. Epic! Truly amazing. Rock on! Reply Such an amazingly beautiful wedding. 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