Jo & Spig's goth-ish geeky intimate wedding #Real Weddings: Global#black dress#colored wedding veils#europe#fall weddings#geeky weddings#goth#pagan#purple hair#short dress#tattooed bride#uk Updated Oct 12 2015 (Posted Jan 20 2015) Offbeat Editors The Offbeat Bride: Jo, self-employed crafter (and Offbeat Bride member) Her offbeat partner: Spig, Civil Servant Date and location of wedding: The Bond, Birmingham, UK — October 18, 2014 Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We had a modest budget, so many of our decorations were handmade. My mom made miles of bunting and I made my bouquet which was a real labour of love and I couldn't have done it without the information and inspiration I found on Offbeat Bride. We also designed most of our own stationary since Spig has a graphic design degree. Finding a theme was really hard as there are so many things we love. In the end, we chose a fairly gothic aesthetic with gaming, movie, and literary elements. When it came to my outfit I was torn between my own style and feeling like I’d be missing out if I didn't wear a white dress. I'm glad I stayed true to my personal style as it gave me a lot of confidence on the day, I actually ended up wearing a dress I already owned but had never had the opportunity to wear. This allowed me to spend more money on my accessories, and I even managed to find time to knit a shawl to finish off my outfit. We decided early on that what was important to us was our wedding photos (I trained as a photographer) and I was so happy when Lisa said she could do our wedding. I loved her style and she immediately made me feel at ease. Music was also really important to us — we had classic jazz and retro swing accompanying our afternoon tea. We used music from films we love during the reception BBQ and started everyone off dancing with some electro '80s, getting heavier and more us as the night went on. Tell us about the ceremony: There are a lot of restrictions on civil ceremonies in the UK. Only rooms licensed for weddings can be used, and the structure of the ceremony is quite restrictive. We did manage to make it feel like our own by picking our own reading, and personal and ring declarations. Our readings were made by my good friend and only bridesmaid Sara. Our biggest challenge: I suffer from social anxiety and we’d been engaged less than 12 hours before I freaked out that I wouldn't be able to cope with all the people and attention of a wedding, I started to think we’d have to elope for me to get a ring on my finger. So I hit the internet and realised I could make it work. I’d have to buck some traditions, but we’re used to being the black sheep of our families and they've always been supportive of us regardless. We kept out guest list small, with only 13 of us for the ceremony and 60 at the reception. Finding a venue was tricky as many wanted bigger numbers than ours, but when we found the right place they were so accommodating. My favorite moment: Looking around at our nearest and dearest during our very intimate ceremony and feeling so loved and not anxious in the slightest because everyone there was so supportive was amazing. Most of our friends weren't there to see us getting hitched, so when our evening guests arrived, we jumped the broom together as a nod to my pagan beliefs and to share the moment with everyone. The cheer that went up after we made our leap was really amazing. My funniest moment: We had sparklers instead of confetti at our reception. Our guests lined up and making a tunnel for us to walk through. But the panic on their faces as they tried to light the sparklers was so funny. My father-in-law got caught in our path and danced past us waving his sparkler. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Letting go, of control and of perfection — I didn't realise I was a control freak until I had to delegate jobs for the day and a lot of my anxiety was over everything being perfect. Letting go wasn't easy, but so many people offered their help and did amazing jobs. I can see now that the pursuit of perfection is unrealistic and sometimes damaging, and that authenticity was my real goal. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Bride's Dress: Anna Bees Bride's cuffs: Vilindery Bride's hair: Le Keux Vintage Salon Groom's boutonniere: Fab Fascinator Photography: Lisa Carpenter Photography Cake: Occasional Cakes Venue and catering: The Bond Vintage China Hire: Emily's Best Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! PREVIOUS Make your wedding the most tech-powered day ever NEXT How my dad shut me up with a hardware store and a cupcake stand Show/Hide comments [ 16 ] So beautiful, seriously tearing up over here! Reply Thank you x Reply Gorgeous wedding! I also live in Birmingham and typically didn't find out about the Bond Company until we'd booked a venue in my partner's home county. A shame because it looks stunning in these photos! Reply Thank you. The Bond's definitely a hidden treasure and I can't even begin to express how accommodating they were. Reply This whole day just looks so beautiful and fun! Also I need to know what shawl pattern… Reply Thank you. The pattern is called Sweet dreams and you can get it here http://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/sweet-dreams-17 Reply seriously, that shawl is incredible. I'm jealous of your skill and your beautiful wedding. congrats =D Reply OMG This is seriously like the best wedding ever. So awesome! 😀 Congrats to the couple on having such an authentic and personal wedding! 🙂 Reply Thank you, there's a tremendous sense of satisfaction when you craft a day that's perfectly "you" and other people enjoy it too. Reply It was such a beautiful wedding, Jo. All the fantastic details and touches everywhere too. Now I have something to show when I've been gushing to people about your wedding and haven't been able to explain it properly. Especially loved that for those who were not at the ceremony, we got to see you jumping the broom! Fantastic old tradition (yes, in England too). x Reply Absolutely loved photographing this amazing day, the beautiful little details that Jo and Spig produced were perfect and everything was so personal to them. Just a lovely day with fab people! 🙂 Reply I love this so much that I can't do anything except flailpoint at my screen, intermittently squeaking in delight. Congrats! Reply I need to know what hair dye you've used to get that colour. Please share? Reply The make is Directions and the colour is Neon Blue (which is purple). It was applied over a base of Atlantic Blue (which really is blue) so I'm not sure if that made a difference. 🙂 Reply Thank you! Reply This is great! I love it! 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