Anna & Jon's vegan, deco, gamer wedding #Real Weddings: Canada#atheist#backyard#gamers#geeky#ontario#small wedding#toronto#vegan#vegetarian#wine ceremony January 13 2011 | Offbeat Editors offbeatbride This week at Offbeat Bride is meat- and dairy-free — it's Vegan Week! Day 4 of Vegan Week brings us the full scoop on the Bioshock cupcake topper wedding. Anna & Jon had quick ceremony followed by a mini-reception featuring awesome vegan cupcakes!-Becca Photos by Markus Staley Photography The offbeat bride: Anna (Tribe member) Her offbeat partner: Jon, film & tv editor Location & date of wedding: Family backyard, Toronto, Ontario — May 22, 2010 What made our wedding offbeat: After being engaged for almost three years, we decided on the backyard of Jon's aunt — a lovely, private space in the heart of the city. Jon is an atheist, and I'm basically a new-agey type spiritualist, so we were thrilled to connect with the unitarian church in Toronto. Our lay-chaplain helped us design our own ceremony, which included a celtic wine ceremony. We greeted our guests at the door and helped them find where to sit. Then we walked down the aisle together to "Strangers" by The Kinks. Although the guest list was too small to have our friends stand for us, we each have one sister who held the rings and were witnesses for us. Everyone stayed for wine and vegan treats. There amazing cupcakes decorated to reflect the art deco aspects of our favorite video game, Bioshock. They had edible blue Morpho butterflies, a reference to the game and to our "proney" (pre-honey) moon to Costa Rica. Topping the tower of cupcakes were two figurines from the game. Jon designed our programs to reflect the game and used pictures of the characters. After the ceremony/mini-reception, everyone retired to the pub for drinks and some impromptu dancing. It wasn't planned, but our first dance was to "Baby You're a Rich Man." Tell us about the ceremony: I wish I could just copy and paste the entire ceremony in here. I loved it. We did a celtic wine ceremony, which included drinking once for our past, present and future and naming each other as our Anam Cara or soul friend. We walked in to "Strangers" by The Kinks, played "Loving Cup" by the Rolling Stones while we signed the register, and walked out to "Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da." Best of all, our ceremony was roughly fifteen minutes long! Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was committing to a date and location. Every time we sat down to plan something, the money scared the hell out of us so we abandoned the idea. Finally, we realized that it was going to cost some money, and there were going to have to be compromises, like a teeny tiny guest list. My favorite moment: As part of a series of unfortunate events, I completely revamped the first part of the day. Instead of going to the ceremony location to get ready, my sister and I went back to my apartment alone. It was a moment to re-group and take some photos. My parents came and picked us up in a cab, so the four of us had some time together. When we arrived at the ceremony site, I immediately found Jon and we greeted guests together. Totally unplanned, but completely us. We had four short speeches that were all lovely, but my mother, who was asked to talk about me when I was little, was just amazing. She made everyone laugh and cry. She had a moment to shine, and no one can stop talking about it. During downtime between the ceremony and the pub, Jon and I wandered around an area of Toronto called the annex/yorkville with our photographer and his wife. They are amazing people, and they gave us a moment to just BE together. Our friends partied with us at the pub until roughly 4am in the morning. We simply have the best friends in the world. My funniest moment: For our wine ceremony, whomever prepped the goblet didn't pour very much. In front of all the guests I had to throw my head back while I drank to get any wine. It looked like I chugged wine for each part of the ceremony. Was there anything you were sure was going to be a total disaster that unexpectedly turned out great? I assumed it was going to be a day that I just had to get through. My expectations for having a good time were very low. In fact, I had a great time! My advice for offbeat brides: Read "Of Brides and Zillas" and read it often. I wish it has been posted before my wedding. Try not to anticipate how other people are going to act and feel. They will often be/do the opposite and the unimagined result can be startling. Be kind, especially to yourself and your partner. What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding? Even though this is something you only do once – you can still learn about yourself, your partner, your family and friends. It can be stressful, even emotionally painful, but it's 100% worth it. Care to share a few vendor/shopping links? Photographer: Markus Staley Photography We knew he was the right photographer for us when we learned that he uses digital AND film Cupcakes: The Sassy Lamb learned how to make vegan cupcakes just for us. They were so tasty and pretty: Bolero: Mary and Angelika Earrings: Gem Stone Gypsy Cupcake stand: Cupcakeology Rings: Erin Tracy Designs We love our rings SO much. Erin did my engagement ring and our wedding rings. Cake: Sweets from the Earth. Chaplain: First Unitarian Congregation in Toronto. They are so freaking cool: Enough talk — show me the wedding porn! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo PREVIOUS How to elope AND share the wedding with your family at the same time NEXT Save the Dates: why, when, and how it's done Show/Hide comments [ 20 ] Fantastic. I love your green bolero, and the low-key but very classy feel. 🙂 Reply Ahhh! It is crazy to see my wedding on this site that I have loved so much! Much love to my fellow obbs. Reply Love that BioShock cake-topper – and the picture on your invitation, which my husband has as his computer background! Reply These pictures are gorgeous Markus! I have no idea who this couple is, but after viewing the blog, I feel like I do know them; you've captured such a unique "feel" in these photos. Two beautiful people, congratulations to them and to you. thx for sharing. Reply "Try not to anticipate how other people are going to act and feel. They will often be/do the opposite and the unimagined result can be startling." Seriously, this was EXACTLY what I needed to hear this morning. Thanks so much for the wisdom. Worrying how people will react is something I struggle with a lot in the planning process, and I really appreciate the reminder that I should, well, get over myself. 🙂 Reply That was the one piece I was totally drawn to cut, paste and comment on from this profile. So well said and exactly what I felt like during the process, I just never figured out such a clear, concise and non-judgy of others way to say it. Reply The photo of Anna on the payphone? looks like a scene from the movie Date Night! Reply Does that make me Tina Fey? If it does you are my new bestie. Reply I love love love Bioshock, and we are using it and Fallout as the inspiration for our wedding. I love the ways you incorporated it into the wedding. Just amazing. Reply OMG Love the bride's shoes seriously amazing. And the bioshock game toppers are pretty much the best thing ever. :] I hated playing the game if I was home alone. Absolutely adorable. <3 Reply Oh em gee those SHOES!! I dig, chica, I dig. Reply Love the Bioshock toppers and the programs are amazing. And I am seriously in love with those shoes. Your photos are gorgeous, and you guys look great and it looks like it was a lovely day 🙂 Reply Thanks for the shoe love! My running joke the entire day was that if Jon decided not to show up I had a solid back-up option – I would marry the shoes 🙂 Reply You, your shoes and your husband: crush-worthy. Reply I already commented on your Flickr a long time ago, but I don't care, this is like all my favorite things in one wedding (veganism, BioShock, art deco, geekery) so I have to say again that you are awesome. Beautiful wedding =) Reply I love that picture of them by the phone. Reply Anna I love, love, LOVE your wedding. This was the first OBB wedding I ever saw when I stumbled across the site, AND you were from Toronto too, it was crazy. Once I saw how creative, personalized and intimate your wedding was, I was inspired. This site has really made me realize how much control I actually do have over MY ceremony with my fiance. A wedding really should be about you and your groom, not anything or anyone else. What a breath of fresh air! Reply Love That You Incorporated BioShock…Awesome Game! Reply I am desperate to find some amazing green shoes for my wedding. Just wondering if you could share the brand of your beautiful shoes or where you got them. Congrats on your marriage! Reply They are from Poetic License. So glad you like! Reply Leave a Reply to Brittany Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Sign me up for your offbeat awesomeness newsletter! No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. 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