Tiny back, big rack: How to find wedding undergarments when you’re small with huge boobs

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finding wedding undergarments when youre small with huge boobs

Let's talk about boobs! I'm a 32DD, which means I am a petite chick with a mighty big rack. For me, wedding dress shopping was all about the boobs. I had to find a dress that either supported the big gals comfortably and flatteringly on its own, OR I had to find a dress that could work with some major undergarment action.

Yup, I've learned a lot of tricks shopping for the rare and elusive “big rack, small back” support systems. Let's talk about our options…

First of all, the thing I've learned time and time again about bra shopping for uncommon sizes is that you're going to have to pay some big bucks. It's next to impossible to find bras with large cup sizes that don't look like grandma bras (in that they cover the ENTIRE boob in a way that makes wearing V-necks really awkward). So don't trip out over the prices on some of these bad boys (girls?), it's literally the price you pay for supporting your tatas.

Dominique Contour Bra is one of my favorite bras ever, and com in DDs in all sizes.
Dominique Contour Bra is one of my favorite bras ever, and comes in DDs in all sizes.

 
Panache's Evie Bridal Strapless Basque Bustier is made for smaller backs and bigger boobs.
Panache's Evie Bridal Strapless Basque Bustier is made for smaller backs and bigger boobs.

 
Fredericks of Hollywood sells wonderful bras from 32DD-42F, and they are almost always having a sale.
Fredericks of Hollywood sells wonderful bras from 32DD-42F, and they are almost always having a sale.

 
Or find a wedding gown with a built-in corset. This one I tried on had that. I felt secure, but I worried about pulling up the dress the whole night, even so.
Find a wedding gown with a built-in bra. This one I tried on had a bit of a corset action going on. I felt secure, but I worried about pulling up the dress the whole night, even so.

 
Corsets revolutionized my world! They support your tits and take all the weight off of your back and shoulders. Check out our sponsor Starkers for some custom corset wedding dress combos.
Oh but corsets revolutionized my world! They support your tits and take all the weight off of your back and shoulders. Check out our sponsor Starkers for some custom corset wedding dress combos.

 
Me in mah wedding dress.
With my shape, I found that a halter-style dress was the best bet. It basically held up my boobs on its own, and I wore a bikini top underneath to curb any nipple showings.

Bathing suit tops, halters, custom corsets, built-in bras… what are YOUR favorite undergarments for your glorious DD-pluses?


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Comments on Tiny back, big rack: How to find wedding undergarments when you’re small with huge boobs

  1. Amen! I’m a US 34M (UK 34J), and this was the biggest obstacle to wedding dress shopping. I ended up having a dress custom-made, which I would highly recommend if you can squeeze it into your budget: mine had a sweetheart neckline and straps just wide enough to cover bra straps. Even a year later, it’s still the splurge I’m happiest about making.

    I buy lots of my bras – and the bustier I wore for the wedding – from a British site, Bravissimo (http://www.bravissimo.com), which sells even the pretty colours and non-granny styles up to a UK L-cup, and has reasonable worldwide shipping to boot! (Plus, they have a sister site that sells clothes cut for petite girls with big boobs.)

  2. It’s both the size of mine and their position that causes me problems; I have high breasts as well as average-sized ones.

    They’re only 32E-ish (in-bra examples at the Bra Band Project: http://tinyurl.com/lcx8r24), which I refuse to call large because comparatively speaking they just don’t look it to me. Clothes designers may act like breasts that size are unusually massive, but they really aren’t, and I refuse to pander to that misconception*. Uh… anyway… high breasts. That means that a top that is the right length overall doesn’t cover my bra at the top, and if I take up the straps it becomes too short.

    This problem is replicated with corsets, whose waist becomes too high, and with lots of built-in supports because it’s assumed that the armpits will be higher relative to the breasts than they actually are (the peak of my breasts when supported is about level with the top of my armpits). So I’ve given up. It’s bras worn tilted up at the front and tailoring my own tops from now on :(. At least that means I’ve got experience ready for making special-occasion outfits, I guess!

    *I believe that like fatness and thinness, breast size is contextual; someone can have the problems associated with small breasts in one situation and those associated with large breasts in another. So I’m not really trying to talk absolutes here.

    • Mine are unusually high too (and 32DD). My straps are always soooooo long (and forget spaghetti strap dresses)! After my first daughter, they actually dropped a bit… I was so thankful for that… everyone thought I was nuts.

      • I have known a friend or 2 that naturally had what I call the opposite: Low riders, in other words if you cross your arms with hand to elbow your breasts sit right there. I know that support is so important in bras. The woman in the top photo in my opinion is blessed, assuming they are natural. I wish I had symettrical larger ones like that. Thanks for the article and comments.

      • I have known a friend or 2 that naturally had what I call the opposite: Low riders, in other words if you cross your arms with hand to elbow your breasts sit right there. I know that support is so important in bras. The woman in the top photo in my opinion is blessed. I wish I had symmetrical larger ones like that. I feel for those women with anything larger than an E, the back pain at times must not be comfortable. But so happy that lingerie and “underpinnings” as Dita Von Teese calls them have come a long way. Embrace your natural Ta-Tas, as it part of what makes a woman’s body so beautiful. Thanks for the article and comments.

    • This may be obvious, but a friend of mine does this all the time and it was a game changer for me. If you get a strappy tea-length gown, take up the straps (and possibly replace the straps with something wider), you end up with a perfect knee-length down.

      Something I’ve done to eliminate the too-short skirt on a dress after adjusting the straps is to sew a strip of lace or coordinating fabric in under the original skirt hem to make it look like a double skirt, or layered skirt, and give it back the inch or two of length that was taken out of the straps. This is a bit more effort, but not too bad if you can sew along the original hemline of the dress.

      • I don’t wear dresses very often, but I do use a similar technique to make tops out of dresses, I just take the hem up too. The double-skirt/underskirt thing is excellent impetus to get creative with your clothes, which is fun if you’re into that. It’s a bit tough if you’re not though. I really like sewing and I still wish I didn’t have to do so much of it!

  3. Oh my goodness, yes! I’m a 28g; I feel this. A corset that really fits is a magical, extraordinary thing – I love my custom corset from Exquisite Restraint in Los Angeles. For everyday wear, I adore the Deco bra by Freya. Once you know what size and bra style works for you, you can actually find some steeply discounted bras on eBay in large cup / small band sizes. I found one of my Decos for about $12 on eBay after getting fitted and buying one for about $70 at Jeanette Bras in Los Angeles (which was totally worth it – I would have been lost and confused without the expert advice of the ladies at Jeanette Bras).

    • eBay is your friend!! I purchased an expensive bra I loved with a fitter and then I scoured ebay and ordered the same brand for looooaaaddddsss cheaper. It doesn’t ALWAYS work out, but you can throw the bra back on ebay or donate to Goodwill and help some other poor big boobed lady.

    • I saw Trisha Paytas shopping there on her YouTube channel. They are beautiful brassieres, but run about 150-180 U.S. dollars. Ouch!! This is of course why hand washing and hanging up special and delicate undergarments to prolong their life is so important!!

  4. Ha! I am also a 32DD (5’2″ and a size 4/6)…. I ended up with a halter style wedding dress as well. It had this awesome little modesty panel in the front that you could put in 2 positions or just take out all together. LOVED my dress. And yes… once you learn you’re going to pay a minimum of $60 for a good bra, you cry. It’s hard to swallow, but I spent $300 the first shopping trip to Nordstroms (which I have learned is a God-send for full-figured gals…. and BONUS… the customer service is amazeballs).

  5. As a 32G, my strategy for my wedding was to choose a dress that allowed me to wear a bra with normal straps. Finding such a dress wasn’t easy, but after watching my hottest, most non-mega-boobed friend pull her strapless dress up all night, I knew a strapless dress would be nothing but a skirt on me. Underneath my v-neck, wide-strapped dress, I wore the Deco Underwire Plunge Bra by Freya, which is super low cut but also very supportive. Afterward, I changed into the Panache bustier that is shown here. It’s really pretty, if somewhat out of my low maintenance comfort zone.

  6. I have the same size – 32DD. I swore I would never buy a strapless dress (for fear of constant tugging), but ended up with exactly that! I ordered a Matthew Christopher Sophia (which came with a built-in bra), and special ordered a larger bra. Although it came in with the wrong size bra the first time, I sent it back and it was perfect the second time. I never tugged at it all day. I just got my wedding video back and I completely loved my dress!

  7. Megan,
    Thanks for posting this! It took me about three or four years to figure out that I was *not* a 34B, as I’d thought in college, or a 32C as I’d thought in grad school, but a 30D. And after finding a couple bras that actually fit and are supportive, I can’t believe I spent that many years trying to make off-the-rack sizes work.

  8. Thanks for mentioning the Panache bustier! They go band 30-38 and cup D-H, in any combo you choose! (They are UK sizes, though, so be mindful if you order it without trying it on somewhere.)

    • It didn’t get great reviews on Bare Necessities (the biggest complaint is that the boning buckles at the waist), and while you can send it back within 60 days if it doesn’t fit, you’ll then find yourself at square one. So if I had to add to your advice, I’d say to give yourself plenty of time and plenty of options to try, expecting that several just won’t work out well!

    • This is the bra I’m using. It was one of three options that fit and one of two that didn’t peek out of the dress. My seamstress is sewing it into the dress. Yes, I did notice that the boning buckles (the other option I tried was much better, but didn’t work), but when you have few options, anything that will hold you up is a win! Besides, it’s actually pretty!

  9. I am also a 32DD. I ended up not getting one dress I thought about because it was cut very low in the front and back, and a built in bra just would not have been able to give me the support. I ended up going with a massive ballgown with a built in boned corset- no bra needed. I have an extreme hourglass figure, and the corset ended at my natural waist- despite being like 30 pounds, that dress wasn’t going anywhere, and neither were my boobs. Of course I had one heck of a mark on my stomach at the end of the night, but beauty is pain, right? 😉

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