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transgender

We’ve been talking about transgender weddings since 2008, and love supporting folks as they find trans wedding outfits (whether it’s a dress or suit or a combination of both!), lots of inspirational photos, and ceremony ideas. Depending on how you identify, you may also want to check out our nonbinary weddings, too!

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Marilee & Lizz aka “Sasquatch and gnome” get hitched in a nature park

This “tall and small” couple are giving us feel-good goosebumps today. We’ve got a gnome and Sasquatch cake, etched wood decor, a scenic park venue, and a pup in a bow tie. Just wait until you read what they did for the first time in front of their family. It’s tear-jerking. But our favorite part is the funniest moment. Hint: it contains Boy Scouts and a very special merit badge…

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Rachel & Russ’ queer bluegrass brunch wedding

Did someone say “gorgeous outdoor lawn games and square dancing wedding?” Yeah, I just knew you were thinking about it. Well get on board with this one: croquet, cigars, bow ties, and the couple handing out ice cream. Plus, you’ll love the ceremony structure and big ol’ singalong at the end. To what song, you ask? RING OF FIRE!

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Meredith & Ainsley’s gingham and glitter wedding weekend

A survey for guest needs, customized snacks in your camp-style guest house, a nostalgia-themed lunch, a pool, trivia, and games all weekend? We are officially ultra-jealous of attendees of this wedding. This couple, who totally knows how to cater to their awesomely diverse community, managed to pull off a stellar wedding weekend full of love, hilarity, and choreographed dance moves.

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Male wedding privilege as seen from a transgender groom’s perspective

I have been thinking about the weird privilege I’ve held as the male-presenting person in this relationship. I believe this is because people want to honor my identity and respect my maleness, yet it feels uncomfortable and untrue… because it erases the fact that those images don’t actually fit our queer relationship, and they don’t include my trans-ness.

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Marita & Loren’s backyard Sunday queer and trans wedding

We love the focus on accessibility and inclusion in this wedding! It’s no wonder their community was so willing to come together and make this sweet backyard wedding a reality. With amazing poetry, a night-before intention setting and ring blessing gathering, and killer style (including a wooden bow tie!), this pair wins the internet today.

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Warrior Brides of the 21st century: No more resting in bubbles of wedding planning privilege

I am a Caucasian, cisgender, homosexual woman. My fiancé is transgender. Xe was assigned-female-at-birth but identifies as genderqueer and uses the gender neutral pronouns xe/xyr/xem. No one ever uses xyr correct pronouns unless they are explicitly told to use them and even then some people flat-out refuse. So what do we do about it? I am done sitting in my bubble of privilege. I am popping my bubble, donning the outfit of a warrior bride (think chainmail veil), and taking my vocal sword into the crowd and to my wedding!