Category Archive

traditions

Folks having offbeat weddings often wrestle with questions like, do I have to include wedding traditions? What if I don’t want my dad to walk me down the aisle? What if I don’t like the garter toss? What if I don’t want to do a cake cutting (or even have cake!?). This archive is our collection of posts about how to choose which wedding traditions to include, and which to skip.

Should your parents pay for your wedding? Why one bride says NO THANK YOU

Historically, parents paying for a wedding has ugly cultural baggage. For this reason, I am against the idea of anyone’s parents being obliged or asked to pay for their children’s wedding.

5 ways younger millennials & Gen Z are changing the wedding game

A few things we know about the next generations of couples: they’re getting married later in life, deeply fear divorce, are less apprehensive about prenups, and are changing the wedding game in a lot more ways than just adding social media tags to their photos. Millennials and Generation Z (those born between the mid-’80s and 2000) are shaking up traditions in mindful ways that make a lot of sense. From microweddings to lab-created diamonds, let’s see what changes we’ll see in the coming decade…

How we're making a Swedish kissing tradition into a poly-friendly, queer-friendly wedding ritual

How we’re making a Swedish kissing tradition into a poly-friendly, queer-friendly wedding ritual

My fiancé and I hold ethical non-monogamy as one of the values at the core of our relationship. So we are determined to make sure that value is represented at our microwedding. While researching wedding customs traditional to our ethnic backgrounds, we discovered that there actually exists a ritual that’s time-honored, joyful, culturally-specific, and non-monogamous…

The Swedish kissing tradition!

I bought a colored wedding dress and now everyone's mad! What should I do?

I bought a colored wedding dress and now everyone’s mad! What should I do?

I come from a family of strict traditionalists when it comes to everything, especially weddings. I recently bought a peach wedding dress with no sleeves and expressed I wanted light blue hair and Converse to go with it. As you can imagine, things didn’t go over well. When I try to stand up for my wedding choices, I’m shamed for it.

Please help!

Are we "desperate" or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Are we “desperate” or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Lately I’ve been feeling guilty. Then I’ve been feeling guilty about feeling guilty because I should know that I don’t need to feel guilty. I’ve been feeling this way because I happen to be a woman who wants to get married someday. This in itself isn’t a new development, but now I actively WANT it. Now “quirky engagement rings” keeps finding itself in my Pinterest search history and Offbeat Bride is gradually making its way up my most visited sites. It’s literally proposal guilt.

"I never imagined having a wedding until we did": how to throw a non-wedding wedding

I never imagined having a wedding until we did: how to throw a “non-wedding”

No one ever thought I would get married. Except I actually love weddings! I watch bridal shows and browse the stories and DIY projects on Offbeat Bride. When friends get married I’m super happy for them. But I can’t stand the thought of having a big wedding party for myself or see myself as a princess in white. We decided to get married anddecided to throw a party. Therein we have our challenge…