Most of my wedding planning is done. There’s not much left really, except the minor things that will get wrapped up right before… but I feel like there is so much left to do and keep getting the urge to add more, and more! I try to remind myself that we are on a budget and what we got already is fine… but then why do I want to add, for instance, photos/or/drawings of us around the venue? I am stuck in bridal over-planning mode! How do I STOP organizing and planning and take a step back? Is this just feeling that will linger until the final days where I can actually SEE things come together?
Do you ever feel like you’re getting it from both sides: you’ve got pressure to be more traditional and materialistic on one side, and on the other side, you’ve got pressure to be uniquer, more special-er, authentically truly meaningfully YOU-er. Back! Forth! Back! Forth! I can resist tradition! I don’t want to avoid something just because it’s traditional! I like chair covers! But I can’t like chair covers! Everything we picked is personal! Now it feels like of embarrassing…like it’s over the top and “me me me”!
THIS, my friends, is what one reader coined as WIC-whiplash (WIC-lash?). Together, we’re going to take a deep breath and try to get over it.
While trying to organize everything for our wedding, I feel so overwhelmed with options that I have become very indecisive about things.
How did you come to a decision on anything from theme, color-way, dress, guest gifts, etc.? Was it hard after to not compare it to other options? How often did you change your mind before coming to final decision?
This wedding planning thing can suck hard. Not everyone loves planning a wedding and some people downright hate it. Drama happens, things go wrong, and planning is a whole heck of a lot of work. If that’s you right now, then maybe we can help make things at least a little better with these six tips.
Besides the obvious “ah-ha!” moment of “OMG I’m SO glad I found Offbeat Bride,” I wanted to share the top-five realizations I’ve had while planning this thing. These tidbits may not be for everyone, but if my best friend were getting married, this is what I’d tell her.
Ah, what a few 3,500 meter mountains will do to put everything in perspective. Taiwan is a tiny island, and we are two single expats on it, out of several hundred thousand Westerners, and quite a few more expats from other Asian countries. And yet, as insignificant as I am on this teeming, overpopulated rock, the wedding was taking on ridiculous proportions, overwhelming my life and becoming the center of everything I thought was important. To the point where I wondered what it was like to be someone who didn’t really care about The Wedding, or Any Wedding. I am not really the “OMG it’s the most specialest day of my liiiife!” kinda girl, so when I realized that I was becoming that girl without actually believing the hype, well, that was doubly worrying.