Who the hell cares: important lessons from partners who aren’t as interested in wedding planning
One detail that’s been plaguing me ever since I bought my dress has been figuring out what I’m going to do with the length. So I go back and forth, back and forth, on this decision. The past six weeks or so, I was gung-ho about getting it shortened. Then, one night, I was telling my partner about how I was once again reconsidering. While I listed out the pros and cons of leaving my dress full-length, I could see his eyes begin to glaze over. “Mm-hmm,” he said as I talked, stifling a yawn. Which was when I realized: Who the hell cares?
Tough conversations about marriage: why an online prenup is a good start
Recently, an old friend of mine decided to have a non-legal commitment ceremony… a commitzvah, they called it. For various reasons, she and her dude decided they didn’t want to legally get married, but you know what they did instead? They sat down with a lawyer, and had some really, really difficult conversations and worked out a legally-binding commitment agreement. Conversations about money. Conversations about children and aging parents. Conversations about fidelity and divorce. Realistically, because they opted to build their legally-binding commitment from scratch, they had conversations that many of us planning state-recognized marriages don’t have.
6 reasons why wedding planning seems to make everyone act crazy
In the wake of some drama with our families, I’ve been reading a bit on why wedding planning seems to make people act crazy and unreasonable. And I think I’ve come to some conclusions on why both of our families are being so bloody difficult throughout this whole process.
Zygotic relationships: How getting married is like forming DNA strands
Ever think about how merging lives is like creating DNA strands? I sure didn’t… until one groom (of I am not a Bride fame) started talking about “Are you building up to the 10 fingers and the 10 toes?” And then it all made sense! Ah science and love, what a match you make.
Do I really want to marry you? When doubts are a good thing.
I have doubts. I wanted to blame them on the stress of planning the wedding but I couldn’t lie to myself. I have always had them. So after one particularly long and emotionally draining day, I talked to my partner about my doubts and even created an action list of thing we should do to move forward. These are just a few of the things we’ve decided to work on together, and maybe they’ll inspire similar discussions for you and your partner, with equally positive results.
How buying a new car with my partner triggered cold feet
I never would have expected that my first bout of chilly feet would be triggered by a beautiful new car. I know cold feet can mean many things, and has an alarming sound to it. So let me define my version of it.