We’re no strangers to charitable registries — they’re some of our favorite ways to channel funds to awesome organizations (and so you don’t end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t even need!). If you’re a bibliophile who loves to support your local public library, this wedding registry concept is stellar.
Instead of that traditional gift registry, you can easily create a wedding charity registry in support of The New York Public Library!
When it comes to gift-giving, the general consensus among my peers is that you give what you can, if you wish. As far as we’re concerned, your presence is present enough — especially considering that we are a bunch of broke Millennials.
My extended family, however, hardcore-believes in tangible gifts. Some of them are sticklers for the traditional (and comfortably middle-class) notion of extensive and expensive gifts at shower, hen party, and wedding. It’s generous, but also uncomfortable, at odds with our values, and not always string-free. How can I discourage gifts at my wedding?
Registry etiquette is ALWAYS a touchy subject. But one discussion we want to introduce to the recently engaged is the concept of registry poems, popularized in countries like the UK and Australia.
Registries aren’t as common there, but accepting cash gifts is, often requested in the form of registry poems (or wishing well poems). For Americans (and others) who may not know, these are literally fun little poems asking for money contributions to help with the wedding or honeymoon or just starting out their lives together.
Our kinship with SoKind Registry makes total sense when you know that they focus on gifts of experience, charitable causes, and non-stuff gifts. Not acquiring a bunch of stuff makes total sense for most couples. We decided to work with SoKind to find some of the most interesting, most “why didn’t I think of that” offbeat gift registry ideas from REAL SoKind registries.
Sometimes I browse the Knot (I know I KNOW) for etiquette tips about things I’m not sure of (traditional wording on invites, etc) or to get an outside perspective. Talk about a mistake! The last time I did this was to try and get a handle on exactly WHY it is such a breech of etiquette to do anything other than a traditional, scan gun, store registry. I bring this up only to point out my first big issue with “wedding etiquette” and that’s the mistake of thinking that what’s rude is universal. It isn’t.
Okay, so we already know that our sponsor SoKind is a fully customizable registry service that encourages the giving of homemade gifts, charitable donations, and experiences, instead of your traditional blender and bedding registry. Now the question is what gifts do you really need? That’s why they’re here to give you the “The giant list o’ ideas of alternative registry items!”