A feminist's struggle (and secret loophole) with an impending proposal

While I consider myself a feminist, I fear that I too have fallen victim to the antiquated societal norm regarding wedding proposals. I have recently found myself waiting with bated breath for a proposal that I know is coming soon. I've come up with a secret solution in order to in order to stick to my liberal foundations. But deciding to officially become engaged to be married is a big choice, and I wonder why we have both decided that he is the only one in the relationship who can fully prepare for this event.