Maybe you thought wedding planning would feel like a unicorn showing up and shooting glitter out of its butt, but instead you’re barely able to get out of bed and there’s no unicorns or glitter butts to be seen. Maybe instead of feeling happy about your engagement, you’re feeling freaked out, bummed, or just plain ol’ depressed.
I don’t know what depressed bride needs to hear this today, but you’re not alone.
Weddings are bonkers! I used a few techniques to help me to feel present, together, and to enjoy the journey… while still being able to listen to the myriad of unsolicited advice without losing my shit.
My wedding day countdown app on my phone informs me that there are exactly 30 days, 2 hours, and 22 minutes until my wedding. I feel like I should be more stressed out and nervous. But we’ve been engaged for one and a half years, and I’ve spent some time planning this thing every week, so the vast majority of the work is done.
What’s interesting is that after all that time dreaming and planning, though I’m really excited about the wedding itself, I’m incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding…
As time as gone by, my priorities have changed (I loved the post on how it’s totally fine to have a cookie cutter wedding) and I am having a fairly traditional wedding in about two months. For this reason (and also budget limitations), I ignored the wise advise on this site to seek out vendors whose wedding style fits my vision. But what I am finding as I get deeper into planning the wedding, is that I weirdly am worried about living up to my photographers (and others) expectations and I worry about not being a “hot” enough bride with a “pretty” enough wedding. How do I keep the wedding day focused on what my fiance and I want, even though some of the people around us have different expectations?
At first, I was thinking of inviting family, friends, out-of-town relatives — you know, the typical thoughts that run through some people’s head after a proposal. Then, I had a totally unexpected idea. Why don’t we elope? I was at the time of my life where I didn’t care to spend a ton of money on a wedding and I had no desire to. But what do my wedding planning couples think now?
When I recently got married, I thought that I would be brave and try something a bit different at my wedding. Given that I am a celebrant, it made sense to take a small risk and do something a bit wild. So, I asked a friend with a beautiful horse if I could come in on the horse to the ceremony. But then, what happened next shocked everyone. I was BUCKED OFF THE HORSE! Here’s how I handled it and how it made the wedding a success…