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open thread

We get LOTS of wedding advice questions from readers, and while we always recommend doing a search of our 5000+ posts in our archives (we’ve covered a LOT of territory over the years!), sometimes we get stumped. That’s when we open the question up to readers in open threads to ask y’all… what are YOU doing? If you’d like to submit a question or a topic for an open thread, email us!

Open thread: Is it disrespectful to sneak alcohol into a dry wedding?

“Recently I went to a cousin’s wedding. She used to party but has recently stopped drinking, and her wedding was dry — punch and water were the only beverages served. I respect her decision to throw the reception she wanted, however, my brother and I wanted to drink something with a little burn. Is it terrible to leave a wedding in a park, go to the liquor store nearby, and sneak back in with our well-hidden brown bag?”

Open thread: How should an offbeat wedding guest dress?

“I am generally under-dressed at formal weddings or I end up buying a dress that is boring, wear it once, and donate it. I don’t even know where to look for some cool, offbeat wedding guest dresses. I even googled “dresses to wear to formal weddings” and was overwhelmed by blandness.

I guess basically, can someone tell me (and probably others) what an offbeater wears to a formal gig?”

How do you deal with homophobic wedding guests at your gay-friendly wedding?

Do you have family that is prejudiced? How did you handle homophobic wedding guests? This is an important issue… here are a few of our ideas.

OPEN THREAD: How to kill the hours between ceremony and reception?

I booked the reception venue, which we are only allowed to use after 6pm, way before booking the church. I did not know then that the church would only do a wedding at 1pm. So, assuming the ceremony lasts an hour, we have four hours to kill between the ceremony and the reception. What should we do with that time?

What’s a bride to wear if you like playing with gender expectations?

My fiance loves to wear a bow tie and suit jacket, and equally loves to wear little dresses — and she’s at an absolute loss as to what to wear for our July 2014 wedding! She’s got a faux-hawk with the sides of her head shaved, and loves playing with gender expectations. Sometimes she’s soft-butch, sometimes she’s femme.

OPEN THREAD: Would you have a weekday wedding?

My love has his mind set on getting married on a weekday – that is, on the day of our 5 year anniversary, the 1st of April, 2014. A FREAKING TUESDAY! Would you have your wedding on a weekday? Would you, as a guest, attend a wedding on a weekday?