On being a special snowflake in a community full of them
Almost every wedding idea I have, someone else here has had before me, and someone else will have it again after me. So how to be a Special Snowflake in a drift of other Special Snowflakes? I’m not entirely sure yet. But here are a few things I AM sure of…
So you feel like you gave in: 3 ways to bounce back from wedding planning disappointments
You can rest assured that it’s going to happen at some point during your wedding planning process: that perfect venue for your vintage submarine-themed wedding is going to fall through. You battle with your in-laws to try to keep the guestlist under 100 people, and you find yourself putting stamps on 200 invitations. Your dreams of locally-sourced, delicately spiced catering is going to be replaced by your mother’s “beef or chicken” menu that reminds you of funeral food (true story!).
All weddings are awesome — not just mine
I am confused by the attitude that surrounds weddings and costs and ideas and things. Maybe that’s what makes me offbeat… My problem lies in all the intense bitchiness that lives in the wedding world. “My wedding is better than yours because of such-and-such.”
Can we all just chill the fuck out and be nice to each other for like… five and a half seconds?
Finally owning that I’m a more traditional bride: You are awesome and so am I
Offbeat Bride (both the book and the site) changed me a lot. I became more comfortable with who I am. I discovered fashions and subcultures that I had never known existed, but now love. I learned how to deal with stress, with family, with my own doubts. But because of this fabulous place, I also developed one of my biggest doubts about the wedding: was it going to be offbeat enough?
My wedding is not a college entrance exam: does every wedding choice have to prove a point?
Somewhere in the wedding planning process I gave birth to a beast: you, Wedding-Planning-Me, you were born. And now we have to have a little talk.
Battle cry of the Offbeat Lite
Sometimes I get the feeling that my fellow Offbeat Lites feel out of the loop on Offbeat Wed. They let themselves feel pushed aside, and unrepresented. I’m here to tell you that’s not the case.