Maybe you’re a seasoned pro at attending same-sex weddings or maybe they’re a new concept for you, and you don’t want to be responsible for any awkwardness on someone’s wedding day. It’s easy to fall prey to a faux pas when it comes to saying the right things. Understand that the basics, love and respect, remain the same for both straight and LGBTQ weddings.
Here are six gay wedding etiquette rules that will make you the couple’s favorite…
We are a queer interfaith clergy couple. Our wedding party consisted of a spiritual and supportive “Femme Crew” and “Butch Crew.” We call ourselves TEAM UNICORN because we love rainbows and sparkles and magic and don’t subscribe to socially constructed ideas of gender. We celebrated our wedding at a stunning camp site in North Georgia all weekend with a Shabbat prayer service, a 12-step recovery meeting, swimming and boating options, hikes to waterfalls, a bonfire, and yoga on the dock.
Heidi and Molly married in Mendocino, CA at Heritage House Resort as the picturesque backdrop for this beautiful non-binary gay wedding. It was so clearly joyful that I couldn’t stop smiling while looking at it. Heidi dyed her hair a deep blue to match the wedding party outfits and Molly rocked signature cufflinks, a dapper AF suit, and happy tears that’ll get you every time.
Sara and David live in New York City, but chose to get married at the Concord Country Club where David’s mom got married a few years earlier. They had loved it and trusted them to handle an amazing wedding. They really wanted a small celebration surrounded by nature. Sara, a genderqueer bride, made that stylish leather jacket, and chose to play with other wedding traditions by wearing gold glitter Doc Martens for that something new, and Van Gogh’s Starry Night socks for the something blue.
We had a ceremony musical theater interlude, a Stevie Nicks themed cocktail hour, social justice and queer themed tables, bomb food, bomb dancing, and homemade wedding cakes. Our theme was to have a queer AF wedding that was hopefully as much a gift to the people we love as it was to us. We were rounding out an ambitious year: cross country move, new jobs, new careers, and a wedding all happening within a few weeks.
This small elopement in New York City was full of sparkles, sequins, the best of friends, tons of tears, a mini dance party in the park, and a hugh-jass ice cream milkshake. Is it possible to even imagine a more intimate, fun-filled, and stress-free wedding?
You’re in a for a big, whipped cream and cherry-covered treat with this one, y’all…