nonbinary / genderqueer

This is our collection of weddings with folks who identify as gender-queer or nonbinary! Offbeat Bride is a state of mind, not a set of genitals. Despite the name, we celebrate all identities and have posts about lesbian weddings, transgender weddings, gay weddings, and bisexuality, as well as non-binary gender identity issues.

Misha & Tracey’s sustainable DIY barn-chic queer wedding

This couple manages to combine a lot of inspiration, some eco-DIY love, and a dose of tradition into a bitchin’ barn wedding. And after seeing the homemade treat table and a kale bouquet, it’s on like Donkey Kong.

A twist on the tuxedo for gay grooms and genderqueer wedding warriors

“I’m helping my gay friend get married to the man of his dreams. He doesn’t want to go with a typical wedding tuxedo, but they definitely want some femininity in their wedding. Help?”

Kimberly & David’s Bookish gender-avoiding party (with a wedding)

The theme for 2011’s National Library Week is “Create your story.” It don’t know what says “Create your story” more than the two tuxes, book covered tables, and ceremony standing in the round in the fourth installment of Library Week weddings.

Unique gay and lesbian cake toppers

Unhappy truth: It’s hard to find an abundance of gay-friendly and/or gender neutral wedding stuff. From advice, to porn, to products our gender-bending, same-sex loving friends constantly get the shaft. We got a request for advice on where to find same-sex cake toppers, so I thought I’d show you some of the ones I’ve found over the years.

Musings of an almost not-bride

I won’t be an Offbeat Bride soon. In fact, I won’t be any kind of bride, because in a month I’ll be married. And for some reason, that’s making me sad. I don’t want to get into the whole “you should be planning for the marriage not the wedding!” or the politics of wedding vs. marital energy/time/money expenditure. I get that, I assure you. I want to acknowledge what an important and huge part of my life and identity being a bride and having a wedding has been for me, and I’m sure for you too. I want to share this journey, and who I am and have become.

How to tell your family about your transgender groom

“Both of us previously identified as lesbians … how do I let my guests know that my girlfriend is now my groom?”