Challenging "normal" wedding planning when I lost my mother while engaged

I considered myself to be an "ordinary bride," that is until my mother died, and then I discovered that the definition of normalcy is what you deem appropriate, especially when it comes to wedding planning.

For the first few months after she died, it was only natural that my upcoming nuptials were the furthest thing from my mind. Then, as the year of my wedding date began to approach, suddenly friends and family became concerned that I wasn't living up to being a "traditional bride." It begs the question: what's traditional?

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I bought a colored wedding dress and now everyone's mad! What should I do?

I come from a family of strict traditionalists when it comes to everything, especially weddings. I recently bought a peach wedding dress with no sleeves and expressed I wanted light blue hair and Converse to go with it. As you can imagine, things didn't go over well. When I try to stand up for my wedding choices, I'm shamed for it.

Please help!

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12 wedding dance songs NOT about love

My partner's mother was emotionally abusive for most of his life, but now they are trying to make amends, and very much wants to do a special mother-son dance. Problem is, all the other wedding websites recommend cheesy love songs. Any help for dance songs NOT about love?

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9 creative ways to thank your parents for making it to (and through!) your wedding

Unless you raised yourselves (or were raised by wolves, which would be even better), you might have a parent figure of some kind to thank for helping you get to be the awesome human you are who gets to marry the awesome person who loves you for being the awesome person you are.

If this is the case, here are some fun ways to thank your parents before, after, or at your wedding…

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Are your parents helping pay for your wedding? Have them read this.

The only rule is to talk openly and honestly about expectations clearly before accepting any money — is the money a loan? A gift? If it's a gift, does it come with stipulations or expectations? Talking about money is uncomfortable and awkward for everyone, but it's critically important for parents who might be contributing to weddings to be VERY clear about what their expectations are… and to watch out for predatory marketing that targets parents…