Challenging "normal" wedding planning when I lost my mother while engaged

I considered myself to be an "ordinary bride," that is until my mother died, and then I discovered that the definition of normalcy is what you deem appropriate, especially when it comes to wedding planning.

For the first few months after she died, it was only natural that my upcoming nuptials were the furthest thing from my mind. Then, as the year of my wedding date began to approach, suddenly friends and family became concerned that I wasn't living up to being a "traditional bride." It begs the question: what's traditional?


"Will we need a corsage for your grandmother?" Grief and wedding planning

Those who have lost someone — and that is nearly all of us — can tell you that grief, rather than subsiding, simply assumes the traits of water molecules. Over an amount of time, never predictable, it changes shape from a solid pain to a fluid, familiar ache, an ache which leaves room for joy, for the ability to page through love-worn photo albums, for gratitude at ever having known and loved the person at all.


Wear a loved one's handwriting with this wedding memorial ring

If you've lost a loved on before your wedding, you might know a little about wanting to remember them in some way at your wedding. I spied this sweet little memorial ring over on Etsy and loved the concept. You send them a scan of your loved one's actual handwriting and they'll create a custom ring for you to wear on your wedding day. It's similar to bouquet and shoe charms, but still a lovely wearable.