Pronouns & assumptions: Gay wedding etiquette rules every guest should follow

Maybe you're a seasoned pro at attending same-sex weddings or maybe they're a new concept for you, and you don't want to be responsible for any awkwardness on someone's wedding day. It's easy to fall prey to a faux pas when it comes to saying the right things. Understand that the basics, love and respect, remain the same for both straight and LGBTQ weddings.

Here are six gay wedding etiquette rules that will make you the couple's favorite…

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Love totally wins at this sparkly camp-chic unicorn interfaith queer wedding

We are a queer interfaith clergy couple. Our wedding party consisted of a spiritual and supportive “Femme Crew” and “Butch Crew.” We call ourselves TEAM UNICORN because we love rainbows and sparkles and magic and don’t subscribe to socially constructed ideas of gender. We celebrated our wedding at a stunning camp site in North Georgia all weekend with a Shabbat prayer service, a 12-step recovery meeting, swimming and boating options, hikes to waterfalls, a bonfire, and yoga on the dock.

Rainbows & gender unicorns: how LGBTQ couples are changing wedding ring rules

When it comes to buying rings for weddings, LGBTQ couples are throwing out the traditions that bind them to form their own paths in ringdom. Whether you propose to each other, have matching bands, eschew rings altogether in favor of another kind of jewelry, the options for rings that represent your identity are quite literally endless. I spoke with one of our favorite custom ring creators, Joseph Jewelry, to see what trends and ideas they've been seeing in wedding jewelry that allows for more expression of who you love, what your gender is, and how you want to communicate that to world.

Lakeside love at sunset at this Ithaca farmers market wedding

We had a specific color scheme of plum, turquoise, and burnt orange. We tried to have meaning and community in all of our choices. My shoes were hand-painted by my good friend who is a silk artist, the rings were made from diamonds from my grandmother's pin by a friend who is a jeweler, the ring pillow I made from the lace from my mother's wedding dress that my two aunts also wore, the cake was made by our two friends (and life lesbian mentors), our guest book my mother made, our engagement photography was done by our maid of honor, and all of our music was made by our friends as a gift…