1.6k 21 Comments Mar. 6, 2019 Don't call me Mrs. Miller: last names, Lucy Stone, & why I'll be keeping my name Since getting engaged, I have been bombarded with well-meaning friends and family members congratulating the "soon-to-be Mrs. Miller" on her engagement. While my external response is generally, "Haha, thanks," my….. Read More 1.9k Jun. 8, 2016 As a queer person of color feminist, I cast aside my last name, and that's okay with me While I always expected I would end up marrying a Taiwanese-American person like myself, I somehow fell in love with a man who happens to be white. I never thought I'd end up dating white guys, nor did I think I'd marry one. Weeks before my wedding, I toyed with the idea of changing my name. I could have a fresh start in life — new name, new license, new everything. But then the feminist part of me strongly opposed taking my husband's name. How can I completely eradicate my single life and the accomplishments I achieved under my maiden name? What kind of feminist am I? Read More 6.5k 21 Comments Mar. 21, 2016 Tradition, confusion, and appropriation: Changing your name in an intercultural marriage There’s a lot to consider when contemplating a name change, of course: personal branding, publications if you’re an writer, your spouse’s feelings on the matter, your own thoughts. But there are extra things to mull over if your marriage is an intercultural one. With that in mind, here’s what I thought about when making my decision… Read More 14k 85 Comments Jan. 20, 2016 My name isn't "Mrs": On changing my mind about changing my last name Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me "Mrs. HisLastName" I didn't like it. It was as though my first name was "Mrs," my last name was "HisLastName," and no identifier of who I was previous to getting married was left. It made me especially angry when we would receive something addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. HisFirstName HisLastName" as though I was not even worthy of a first name anymore. As though I am just a wife. I love being his wife, I love that we're married, but I want to define my marriage. I don't want my marital status to define me. Read More 123…8 Copyright © 2003 - 2019 Offbeat Empire. All rights reserved. Unauthorized reproduction in part or in whole is prohibited. Contact us Terms of Service | Privacy Policy | Monetized by SkimLinks
1.9k Jun. 8, 2016 As a queer person of color feminist, I cast aside my last name, and that's okay with me While I always expected I would end up marrying a Taiwanese-American person like myself, I somehow fell in love with a man who happens to be white. I never thought I'd end up dating white guys, nor did I think I'd marry one. Weeks before my wedding, I toyed with the idea of changing my name. I could have a fresh start in life — new name, new license, new everything. But then the feminist part of me strongly opposed taking my husband's name. How can I completely eradicate my single life and the accomplishments I achieved under my maiden name? What kind of feminist am I? Read More 6.5k 21 Comments Mar. 21, 2016 Tradition, confusion, and appropriation: Changing your name in an intercultural marriage There’s a lot to consider when contemplating a name change, of course: personal branding, publications if you’re an writer, your spouse’s feelings on the matter, your own thoughts. But there are extra things to mull over if your marriage is an intercultural one. With that in mind, here’s what I thought about when making my decision… Read More 14k 85 Comments Jan. 20, 2016 My name isn't "Mrs": On changing my mind about changing my last name Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me "Mrs. HisLastName" I didn't like it. It was as though my first name was "Mrs," my last name was "HisLastName," and no identifier of who I was previous to getting married was left. It made me especially angry when we would receive something addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. HisFirstName HisLastName" as though I was not even worthy of a first name anymore. As though I am just a wife. I love being his wife, I love that we're married, but I want to define my marriage. I don't want my marital status to define me. Read More 123…8 Copyright © 2003 - 2019 Offbeat Empire. All rights reserved. Unauthorized reproduction in part or in whole is prohibited. Contact us Terms of Service | Privacy Policy | Monetized by SkimLinks
6.5k 21 Comments Mar. 21, 2016 Tradition, confusion, and appropriation: Changing your name in an intercultural marriage There’s a lot to consider when contemplating a name change, of course: personal branding, publications if you’re an writer, your spouse’s feelings on the matter, your own thoughts. But there are extra things to mull over if your marriage is an intercultural one. With that in mind, here’s what I thought about when making my decision… Read More 14k 85 Comments Jan. 20, 2016 My name isn't "Mrs": On changing my mind about changing my last name Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me "Mrs. HisLastName" I didn't like it. It was as though my first name was "Mrs," my last name was "HisLastName," and no identifier of who I was previous to getting married was left. It made me especially angry when we would receive something addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. HisFirstName HisLastName" as though I was not even worthy of a first name anymore. As though I am just a wife. I love being his wife, I love that we're married, but I want to define my marriage. I don't want my marital status to define me. Read More 123…8
14k 85 Comments Jan. 20, 2016 My name isn't "Mrs": On changing my mind about changing my last name Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me "Mrs. HisLastName" I didn't like it. It was as though my first name was "Mrs," my last name was "HisLastName," and no identifier of who I was previous to getting married was left. It made me especially angry when we would receive something addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. HisFirstName HisLastName" as though I was not even worthy of a first name anymore. As though I am just a wife. I love being his wife, I love that we're married, but I want to define my marriage. I don't want my marital status to define me. Read More 123…8