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insecurity

How to get over wedding jealousy

Sometimes I look at things that I would love to have for my wedding and I feel a little niggling of the green-eyed monster. Yep, wedding jealousy happens to the best of us. When that happens, however, I go through a little process of self-questioning…

Why I'm putting down the wedding clickbait

Why I’m putting down the wedding clickbait

It’s not too long now until the love of my life and I get married and promise to tolerate one another until one of us dies, and I have reached the conclusion that I need to stop reading wedding clickbait. They’re making anything other than a courthouse wedding seem ill-advised. You know that I wasn’t ready for?

“What’s your wedding hashtag going to be?”

I didn't bother to get offbeat vendors and now I regret it

I didn’t bother to hire offbeat vendors and now I regret it

As I get deeper into planning the wedding, I’m weirdly worried about living up to my photographers (and others) expectations and I worry about not being a “hot” enough bride with a “pretty” enough wedding. How do I keep the wedding day focused on what my fiance and I want, even though some of the people around us have different expectations?

How to keep wedding planning anxiety from stonewalling your excitement

How to keep wedding planning anxiety from stonewalling your excitement

I have been a daughter, an employee, a friend, but the wife role terrified me. My preconceptions of what the wife role entailed crowded my thoughts. I am a huge romantic, and people dream of meeting the love of their life and living happily ever after. But what if it’s not the way you envisioned it? Here are the things that helped me most through my engagement to soothe my wedding planning anxiety and realize this WAS meant to be and where I was supposed to be in my life…

Are we "desperate" or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Are we “desperate” or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married

Lately I’ve been feeling guilty. Then I’ve been feeling guilty about feeling guilty because I should know that I don’t need to feel guilty. I’ve been feeling this way because I happen to be a woman who wants to get married someday. This in itself isn’t a new development, but now I actively WANT it. Now “quirky engagement rings” keeps finding itself in my Pinterest search history and Offbeat Bride is gradually making its way up my most visited sites. It’s literally proposal guilt.

No dieting, no makeup, no shame: My anti-diet, equal opportunity, feminist wedding

No dieting, no makeup, no shame: My anti-diet, equal opportunity, feminist wedding

I’m getting married this July, and like a lot of women, I’m getting increasingly excited and somewhat nervous about this. As someone who is all about equality, feminism, self-acceptance, and patriarchy smashing, there are a couple of things that my impending feminist, anti-diet wedding will not be about. For the sake of any other bride or groom or person who needs a reminder that you’re going to do just fine, here it is…