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The in-between place: wedding planning and my Native American identity

"We are both proud of our heritage. My great-great-great-great-grxfandfather is Red Cloud, the last of the indian chiefs to surrender and be put onto a reservation. He did great things trying to protect his people and his way of life. However, sometimes we are not sure if that is who we are. Well… that is who we WERE, but is that who we ARE? This question has come up a lot in my wedding planning."

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Usernames and the bridentity crisis

Running an online network, I get an interesting insight into the names that people (women, specifically) use for themselves online. And one of the many ways identity shifts are expressed are through usernames and avatars.

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Battle cry of the Offbeat Lite

Sometimes I get the feeling that my fellow Offbeat Lites feel out of the loop on Offbeat Bride. They let themselves feel pushed aside, and unrepresented. I'm here to tell you that's not the case.

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Musings of an almost not-bride

I won't be an Offbeat Bride soon. In fact, I won't be any kind of bride, because in a month I'll be married. And for some reason, that's making me sad. I don't want to get into the whole "you should be planning for the marriage not the wedding!" or the politics of wedding vs. marital energy/time/money expenditure. I get that, I assure you. I want to acknowledge what an important and huge part of my life and identity being a bride and having a wedding has been for me, and I'm sure for you too. I want to share this journey, and who I am and have become.