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5 things Miss Manners hates that I LOVE

I requested the Miss Manners wedding book (published in 2010 — a mere four years ago) this week from my local library. The dilemma of how to address invitations when many of our friends and relations are cohabitating without being married was confusing me, and I figured Miss Manners would have something to say on the topic. She does, of course. She also has thoughts on everything else to do with weddings. I disagree VEHEMENTLY with some of her opinions…

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How to attack a guest list like a ninja

As a wedding planner, I know that one of the main challenges our clients tackle is narrowing down their guest list. Coming from a huge family, I can totally relate — I struggled with a massive guest list when planning my own wedding. Here’s a few tips to quickly reducing the guest list.

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Let your guests decide if they should bring a “plus one”

I am in the midst of planning my wedding, and have had many friends ask me if we will or will not be allowing guests to bring “plus ones.” I recently sent out an email to clarify what we are thinking. This is how I’m dealing with my “plus one” situation…

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The drama-minimizing guide to not inviting family members to your wedding

Ug. This is a post no one wants to write, but that definitely needs to be written. Unfortunately, for a whole bunch of legitimate reasons ranging from addiction to abuse, crime to communication problems, some of you are going to face the challenge of not inviting certain family members (or ANY family members) to your wedding.

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Use Facebook to “shame” your guests into RSVPing

Okay okay, we don’t really advocate Facebook shaming. And we totally think Facebook sucks, especially when you’re getting married. BUT(!) Tribesmaid stephanienjer did you use Facebook to get a leg up on her lazy RSVPs…

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Wedding tit for wedding tat: Am I obligated to invite someone to my wedding if they invited me to theirs?

I’m getting married this fall, and we’ve done our best to keep the guestlist under 100 people. Of course a smaller guestlist has meant making a lot of tough decisions about who not to invite, but them’s the breaks.

…Except for now I just got an invitation to an acquaintance inviting me to HER wedding! Needless to say, this is an acquaintance who I’m NOT inviting to our wedding… what do I do?