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I'm nonbinary with a non-accepting family: should I be in my sister's wedding?

My sister has asked me to be part of her wedding party. I'm deeply estranged from the majority of my extended relatives. She's turning this wedding into a family reunion (300+ guests). I thought I had enough to worry about with being nonbinary and potentially needing to deal with gender dysphoria on the day, but many of these relatives are horrendously bigoted as well. Part of me wants to say fuck it and be outrageously myself, but my anxious self fears for my safety. I'm not out to everyone. Help!

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This wedding is super gay! 5 ways to make your wedding gay as hell

It's Pride Month, y'all, and everyone should be giving props to the LGBTQ community and their weddings. Well, not everyone.

Some folks have concerns about the concept of a "gay wedding" because hey: aren't they just weddings? We get that, of course, but we feature some weddings where couples themselves VERY specifically want to embrace their wedding AND its gayness. So if you're into self-identified Very Very Gay Weddings, this roundup of ideas is for yooooou!

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Which states have gender neutral marriage certificates?

I'm non-binary, and she's binary trans. Neither of us have done anything to medically or therapeutically transition and probably won't be any time soon. We were both born and currently live in Tennessee, so even if we did medically transition, I'm pretty sure we're out of luck when it comes to changing our birth certificates. It would be ideal to have a marriage license that uses gender neutral terms like "partner" or "spouse."

Are there any states which have gender neutral marriage certificate language?

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This gender fluid wedding dress photo shoot gives zero fucks about the "gender binary"

If you're a frequenter of Vine, YouTube, and other social sources, you may know of Jeffrey Marsh, the inspiring, perfectly styled, gender fluid viral sensation telling us to just be ourselves. They have recently been involved in a gender fluid wedding dress photo shoot that gave us major heart eyes AND gave a big middle finger to the gender binary. Let's take a look at this shoot that gives zero fucks about our artificial notions of gender and fabulousness.

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Cake tasting and spitballing: 6 tips for planning a wedding TOGETHER

When we went cake tasting, the wonderful woman who was working with us expressed her surprise that the groom was there. When we went to a venue, the coordinator spoke to me only and generally pretended my fiancée wasn’t there.

My fiancé and I decided to plan our wedding together. Our relationship has been a partnership, and we plan for our marriage to be a partnership; foisting the work on me for the wedding planning is out of sync with our relationship values. While the amount of talking can get exhausting, we’re committed to doing this together. As we continue the planning process, we’ll take some of the lessons we’ve learned so far and apply them forward…