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A retro music festival-style tent village wedding with four dresses & a eye-popping headpiece

We're both (loveable) weirdos so we wanted our wedding to truly reflect who we were. My favourite highlights that I think achieved this were: my 5m maypole, our rock-paper-scissor vows, our pirate celebrant, the giant Soul Train dance line we had with all 200 guests coming down in pairs, our very silly first dance to Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get It On," my dancing down the aisle to "Ain't No Mountain High Enough," my four wardrobe changes, our gong for speeches, and so much more.

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Turtles! Brunch! Dogs in ties! This rainbow lesbian wedding is all about furever love

Since Caitlin proposed to Kris with the tortoises at the Southwick Zoo, we included the turtles in all our little details including a custom logo designed by Caitlin/paper straws with turtle cutouts (save the sea turtles!), handknit turtle coffee sleeve favors which doubled as a seating chart by Caitlin’s grandmother Marcia, and even more turtle decorations.

Since it was a lesbian wedding, we of course had to include rainbows!

Let's journey to this sweet travel-themed queer wine country wedding

We had a travel theme! We both loved to travel before we met and have loved traveling together. The invitations were train tickets (all aboard!) and the table assignments were a country scavenger hunt of the places we’ve been or want to go together (know your geography)! As an officiant myself, I always encourage couples to decide what traditions work for them. One of the great things about a queer wedding is that you have to do that work. There's no traditional order or distinct bride/groom roles, so we got to figure everything out, from who proposed to whom (first) to who danced with whose parents at the reception. It was amazing.

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I'm nonbinary with a non-accepting family: should I be in my sister's wedding?

My sister has asked me to be part of her wedding party. I'm deeply estranged from the majority of my extended relatives. She's turning this wedding into a family reunion (300+ guests). I thought I had enough to worry about with being nonbinary and potentially needing to deal with gender dysphoria on the day, but many of these relatives are horrendously bigoted as well. Part of me wants to say fuck it and be outrageously myself, but my anxious self fears for my safety. I'm not out to everyone. Help!