The challenges of planning a straight wedding as a feminist queer bride
Planning a straight wedding as a lifelong feminist and member of the LGBTQ community was a challenge wrought with emotion, guilt, and confusion (in addition, of course, to all the blissful feelings of being engaged and in love)…
I proposed to my boyfriend and here’s why it was perfect for us…
It was so difficult for me to propose to my fiancé. I grew up with a ton of stories about how men are supposed to propose to women, how they should create the perfect, amazing story. I watched tons of flash mob proposals with internet videos. I watched opera proposals. And movie proposals. And same sex hardware store proposals. Then I met my now fiancé and realized that none of those things worked for us, and that we needed to rewrite the story…
Are we “desperate” or just ready? The guilt of wanting to get married
Lately I’ve been feeling guilty. Then I’ve been feeling guilty about feeling guilty because I should know that I don’t need to feel guilty. I’ve been feeling this way because I happen to be a woman who wants to get married someday. This in itself isn’t a new development, but now I actively WANT it. Now “quirky engagement rings” keeps finding itself in my Pinterest search history and Offbeat Bride is gradually making its way up my most visited sites. It’s literally proposal guilt.
No dieting, no makeup, no shame: My anti-diet, equal opportunity, feminist wedding
I’m getting married this July, and like a lot of women, I’m getting increasingly excited and somewhat nervous about this. As someone who is all about equality, feminism, self-acceptance, and patriarchy smashing, there are a couple of things that my impending feminist, anti-diet wedding will not be about. For the sake of any other bride or groom or person who needs a reminder that you’re going to do just fine, here it is…
Why couples walk down the aisle TOGETHER + processional song ideas
What better way to keep your cool and soothe your nerves than by walking in to your ceremony with your partner (like Jenny and Dean happily did above!)? Sure, it’s awesome to have that surprise moment, but coming in to the ceremony together means you share a processional song and a really sweet moment together, avoid any unnecessary gender roles, and keep yourself on equal footing. For some couples, it’s totally the way to go. Here are a few of our favorite couples who opted to walk down the aisle together…
A poly-friendly and non-possessive ceremony script (with three rings!)
If you are looking to shed some of the possessive wording that usually comes with standard marriage ceremonies, this poly-friendly and non-possessive ceremony script will give you some great inspiration. It’s non-gendered, non-monogamy-friendly, totally usable by LGBTQ couples and cishet couples alike, and sweet as hell. Plus, see how three rings came into play (and the Iron Ring symbolism for Canadian engineers!)