Realizing I can’t do it all on the wedding day: A “Type A” bride’s crisis
I never realized how “Type A” I can be until I started planning a wedding. It’s giving me an inordinate amount of stress to know that I can’t actually be the one cuing the music during our wedding ceremony. I can’t be the one decorating the tables at the reception hall. I can’t sit with the DJ and make sure he picks the perfect sequence of songs. Fellow Type-A brides: How are you handling having to relinquish control of your wedding day to other people?
My “Big Day” as an annual event: Why my less-than-perfect wedding isn’t a big deal
I didn’t get the wedding I wanted and that’s perfectly okay, because I’m going to have a wedding every year for the rest of my life. If I’m allowed to have this crazy notion that my husband and I are going to spend the rest of our freaking lives together, why not vow to celebrate our marriage at least once a year? We’ll turn every anniversary into an opportunity to get hitched again.
How do I give up what I’d always expected my wedding to be?
I always expected to have a big wedding in my hometown, complete with second cousins and friends from high school. Basically, this can’t happen if my partner’s family is to attend, because they can’t travel due to their health. So even though, in a vacuum, I’d love to have my big hometown wedding, it’s just not feasible with my partner’s life. She wants a family-only wedding or an elopement.
…But how do I get over that lost wedding?
Worst wedding ever: how I handled wedding day disappointment
Is it normal to be unhappy on your wedding day? Because I was. Right after my wedding ceremony, the only thought in my head was “this wedding would never be good enough to be on Offbeat Wed.” I was dealing with wedding day disappointment, BIG TIME.
How to let people help you with your wedding
One of the first things I ever read on Offbeat Bride was an article about having open expectations. It really resonated with me, and I tried to keep that philosophy through the entire process. It also helped that I was planning a long-distance wedding, so I HAD to let people help me to stay sane… or to avoid massive amounts of credit card debt from flying from Salt Lake City to Wisconsin a gazillion times. Did I have some minor freak-outs? Yes. But the wedding went off swimmingly, and it was better than I could have done myself thanks to the helping hands I had along the way. But here are some tips I learned, and maybe even those of you who are extra detail-obsessed can step back and let someone help you!
Think twice before writing that negative vendor review
I was disappointed by one of my wedding vendors, so I wrote a scathing review on a wedding vendor review site.
… And then the vendor threatened to sue me.
Yes, it’s true. By law, in my state at least, some of the statements that I wrote in my negative vendor review were considered defamatory and therefore against the law. Which meant I could be sued for a total up to $350,000. So before you go posting that crazy-mad review, follow these tips…