5 ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media (in GIFs)
It’s the start of the holiday season. You’re full of tryptophan and ready for a nap. OR you’re totally celebrating your freshly diamond-ed finger because your spouse (or you!) has just proposed. It’s the holidays, love is in the air. It’s engagement season, y’all.
If this is you, CONGRATS! We’re so happy for you! And we want all your friends and family to be happy, too. So here are five ways NOT to announce your engagement on social media so you don’t wreck all the fun with your wild antics.
Can you invite someone to an engagement party but not the wedding?
If you search the internet for “can you invite someone to an engagement party and not the wedding” you’ll get two answers:
1. HELL FUCKING NO. Don’t be a daft asshole.
2. Sure. Times they are a changing, and some people have super-small weddings, or wedding very far away, and can’t invite as many people as they’d like.
So which answer is it?
I’m single! Who should I bring as my plus one?
Any opinion on who to bring to a wedding if you are completely single but have been granted a “plus one?” One wedding I am in the wedding party and the other I am just a guest, but both weddings I will only know a handful of people. Any advice on who should I bring as my plus one?
Accountability: Offbeat Bride’s official stance on wedding etiquette advice
Not infrequently, Offbeat Bride will be criticized for supposedly telling couples to ignore certain kinds of wedding etiquette advice. Or we’ll catch shit for sharing weddings where folks went way off the beaten track when it comes to what you might think of as acceptable wedding etiquette. Given that the “Offbeat Bride hates etiquette!” critique comes up repeatedly, perhaps it’s worth capturing our official stance on wedding etiquette advice.
My tacky registry: Why I think registry etiquette is bullshit
Sometimes I browse the Knot (I know I KNOW) for etiquette tips about things I’m not sure of (traditional wording on invites, etc) or to get an outside perspective. Talk about a mistake! The last time I did this was to try and get a handle on exactly WHY it is such a breech of etiquette to do anything other than a traditional, scan gun, store registry. I bring this up only to point out my first big issue with “wedding etiquette” and that’s the mistake of thinking that what’s rude is universal. It isn’t.
7 modern wedding guest etiquette questions (+ bonus advice for couples!)
A couple months ago, I was interviewed for an article on Refinery29 about modern wedding guest etiquette. While the article used several of my quotes, I figured I’d share my ALL my answers for seven wedding guest etiquette issues, because who knows! Maybe you’re trying to figure out how to decline being a bridesmaid, or whether you should dress less weird at someone’s wedding.
Plus, I’ve got two bonus etiquette issues for engaged couples at the end. Advice for all!